How do I deal with dreams of husbands infidelity?

My husband had an affair two years ago......I am having dreams about him and his ex-lover all the time. It's to the point where I wake up so pissed off because I think It's all happening again. We have come so far and have an even better relationship than before. But, I don't know why I am still dreaming these things. Can anyone help me?How do I deal with dreams of husbands infidelity?
Strangely, this can be a very good thing. Dreaming about it (even though having the dream repeatedly does suck) is your brain's way of sorting it out. You know the cycle...fear, denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance ... you go through it when something horribly painful happens.





You're facing your worst fears in dreamstate, dealing with it on your own terms. These types of dreams can be very cathartic because you get to say and do all the things you wish you could have said and done.





You may be very close to acceptance. You're brain is driving itself through hell, emerging on the other side and realizing that things are actually okay now.





Congratulations, by the way, on surviving it.How do I deal with dreams of husbands infidelity?
deep seeded fears still in your head - ifyou two aren't in counseling - I suggest you go, otherwise you are never going to fully get over it. If you are in counseling, let your therapist know about your dreams.
It sounds like you are not over it. Maybe counsiling will help. You should do something because it will cause heart ache for you. I personaly would not bring his *** back but if you decided to give him another chance then you should try and work it out.
Your dreams are a warning from your subconscious. The dreams are full of fear, caused by a real experience, and fear is an emotion that causes the mind to relive experiences so as to protect oneself in the future by not forgetting what was dangerous for you. Your mind is also working out different scenarios of how to deal with the situation time and time again to find satisfaction in an ending, and satisfaction over what happened may never happen for you. That would be finding good in the affair somehow, and that may just not be realistic for you even though your relationship is now better.


So even though your dreams may be painful, remember that your mind is your friend here, it is just trying to protect you.
Dream about beating his @$$ and using her for a speed bump. This should make you feel better ;)
...It is in your subconsciousness because you are in fear about what happened ... I have had a similar thing happen and before I go to Bed I ask God to Heal my dreams and it works. I also ask God to help me be forgiving to the person that harmed me. And then I don't watch anything on TV that could feed my fear like that Desperate housewife's show or Nip and Tuck ....any thing that could feed my obsession.
Hmmm...certainly you have forgiven him but not forgotten. Your dreams are a sure sign of fear that the ugly past may recur. Fear will subside with the passing of time. However, if these dreams are more than just dreams but your sub-consciousness trying to tell you something is wrong, maybe you need to do some investigation. Before our separation, each time before I discovered his infidelities, I had dreams of my husband with some woman. The dreams led me to do some investigation and each time I uncovered some of his lies and ';unusual activities';. For me, it seems it was my subconsciousness trying to warn me about my husband through my dreams. Good luck with yours. Ask yourself, even if your husband is again cheating on you, but if he has been so good to you, does it matter if you have to share him with other women? I can't, therefore, I left him.
counseling seems to be a good idea for the two of you...to keep what you have going in the right the direction counseling would be a safe place to voice these dreams/fears to your husband and then let him or the counselor articulate the cause or solution to these...if you trust your husband now or again (whatever) and you really feel that something is happening ask, although it may hurt you, you cant know what you don't ask..but i think counseling will help the dreams
The problem is that we can forgive. But it's had to forget. So when you try to forget that's when you have bad dreams about him. you need to talk to your husband and get this off your chest you will feel better.