How can I deal with nosy family while going through my divorce?

I am 26 years old, pregnant with my first child and separated from my husband due to his infidelity. I have been staying with my parents for the past month while I finish up my nursing degree and get back on my feet.





My aunt and grandma have always been nosy and I really didn't want to say anything to them about my divorce because it's hard enough to deal with right now without having their two cents put in. Last night, my aunt came over (for the first time in a month) and asked my mom whats going on and a bunch of personal questions. My mom said that yes, I'm staying here for a while but the reasons are between me and my husband.





My aunt and grandma are major gossipers and I told my mom yesterday that by today the entire family would know about it. Lo and behold, it isn't even 11 am yet and my grandmas sister and her daughter have already been over. They just ';dropped in'; for a surprise ';visit';. I am so mad right now and don't know what to do. I told my mom to tell them I'm sleeping.





How do I deal with my nosy extended family?? I really don't need to deal with them and their opinions and their million questions right now..How can I deal with nosy family while going through my divorce?
While going through a divorce is as rough as rough can get, I must say congrats on your eagerness to complete your nursing degree!! This is a first step.





As for the nosy family goes. That's just it, families are nosy and sometimes they may actually have a genuine concern. Other times they go overboard with that... I would tell them face-to-face, even if it hurts their feelings: ';This is between my husband and I. I don't air your dirty laundry, don't go and air mine.';





And leave it at that. Good luck and I hope everything works out for the betterment of you and your baby!!!How can I deal with nosy family while going through my divorce?
i am not sure how u deal with it, but my advice to you is to ignore it. I am going through the SAME thing. People will talk and you cannot stop them from doing that. And everyone seems to know whats you should do. You just have to be STRONG and be the bigger person by not letting it get to you. Best of luck.


If you need to talk e-mail me.
Explain to them that its none of their business. it may put their nose out of joint for a bit but at the end of the day they should show you some respect and sympathy during this time and not butt in. Any loving family member would surely understand?
Stating the obvious, but can't you just ';plead the fifth'; and say you're too upset to talk about it? I would have thought that if you stick to your guns, they will eventually tire of it and leave you alone.
Tell them all to stay out of it if you wanted to talk you would call them or visit them i had to do it with my family.
Stating you can handle it. Not to worry. You will let them know if you need any help and go lay down. Being pregnant is a good excuse to say you need rest. Stupid and cheerful always works.


They may have been trying to show you some support in their own immature way.


Gossips are the worst, especially when it's family. Talk to your mom respectfully and let her know if she does any talking to family about you and your situation, then she can deal with the nosey family.


Hopefully she will stand up for you and tell people to back off.


You have other things to worry about.
I've been there.... its quite sad how unsupportive families can be. Honestly, you'll have to sit them down and be blunt about it. You can be blunt without being disrespectful and rude. Sometimes it just takes a bit of aggressiveness to let people know you are serious. Don't be gentle and sugar coat it. Tell them how you feel and how their ';interest'; is causing you extra stress that you do not need in your current condition (pregnancy). That if they cannot respect your wishes, you'll have to keep your space from them.


It sounds harsh but trust me, with people like this it takes an aggressive word to get through to them. You have to do what is best for you, you can't always be worried about others feelings especially when they're obviously not concerned about yours.


Best of luck to you in your nursing career !!!