Can anyone explain this behavior of a man? I am clueless...?

my husband has become extremely angry and just an awful person. We fight all the time now. Our main fight is about his infidelity. He doesn't see anything wrong w/sleeping around with different women. He don't see how it affects and hurts me. When I tell him. ';hey, you are really hurting me.'; he tells me you need to grow up %26amp; focus on what I do for you -I come home every night, pay the rent and your health ins.'; Then his mom co-signs %26amp; say ';ALL men cheat, wake-up %26amp; deal with it'; Before we would just yell %26amp; argue, now he hits me %26amp; chokes me. He has become so angry towards me. I'm leaving for good Saturday b/c he won't stop cheating %26amp; I won't give in to his infidelity. I don't understand how a man can put his wife %26amp; 3 kids out in the streets all so he can screw. Then for his MOTHER to say it's ok for his behavior is beyond words. I feel bad b/c I gave so much to a man that I feel stayed b/c he didn't want to pay child support. He for sure didn't love me. Why does he hate meCan anyone explain this behavior of a man? I am clueless...?
Why does he hate you is the last question you should be asking!!! You have stated the facts and protecting your children and yourself is the first thing for you to do.


Wondering why his mother backs him is irrelevant at this time. She most likely went through the same which means he probably saw the same done to her and sees it as acceptable.


On a deeper level, personalities like the one you have described are typically weak and powerless in most aspects of their lives. The only way for these type of men to feel big is to keep their women small.


Before you start questioning your issues, stop and recognize what is best for your children. If he is indeed the character you have described, why on earth would you or any woman want anything to do with him??? Think about it, the women he is having these affairs with can not be wrapped to tight to be involved with him, right?





Good luck to you and your children.Can anyone explain this behavior of a man? I am clueless...?
When I first read about your husband becoming angry and awful, I immediately thought it could b due to infidelity. Glad to know I am perceptive as always.





Sassy, don't put up with this behavior, I don't care who tells you it is all right - there is no justification for infidelity whatsoever.
Any one that can treat his wife like that, should be in jail. Let go of him, MOVE AWAY. This is grounds for a DIVORCE. How could you have ever let yourself and your kids live with such an abusive person like that. Move first, then get a divorce and like sawman said, clean his clock, and have the courts put a restraining order on him. Listen to what sawman is telling you. He is right.
I have a question for you...why is his *** not in jail? If he is putting his hands on you, theres no reason why he wouldnt hurt your children. you need to report him to the police IMMEDIATELY!!!! and have him arrested. I applaud you for leaving, but why even wait. This is not something that requires thought. Get out and get out now! You dont know what could happen in the next 3 days, you may be dead! LOG OFF AND RUN!!!!!
Wow, well you know what they say - the apple doesn't fall far from the tree. Look where he learned this awful behavior - his own mother! Sad really, but sadder you have stayed with this pig for this long. Leave Saturday and don't look back! His whole family seems nuts!
get a divorce, stand on your own feet and raise you kids. The reason he treats you like trash is because you depend on him for paying for everything you need in life.
you need to divorce this neanderthal, and take him for as much child support as you can. no one deserves this kind of treatment, no matter what His MOM says. she's a loony tune too!
Cheating is learned behavior. When a child grows up seeing a parent cheats, they often fall into that roll as adults because they think thats it's ok.
i would never live with something like that.because thats showing no respect for and really doesnt care about you only him self.
he hates his self.call legal aid (in your phone book) and hang his ***.
Post on Sunday to confirm you left on Saturday...and then I will cheer you on.
He's a piece of crap. That's about it.
Why do you wanna wait for Saturday ? DO IT NOW !
Well before you leave sunday MAKE POLICE REPORTS on his physical abuse.He can't get away with that.He's an sorry excuse for a man and needs to grow up.If he wanted to crawl in and out of those whores beds you let him and pack up and go!DON'T LOOK BACK!You have 3 kids to think about go to the courts and file for full custody because a bastard like that doesn't deserve to be around his kids.How dare he treat the mother of his children as well as his wife who he vowed to love and cherish the way he treats you.DON'T YOU GO BACK ONCE YOU LEAVE.You are better than that sorry behavior you recieved and are still receiving.And his mother she needs to be ***** slapped in a circle because she has no sense at all if she condons this behavior.She ought to be ashamed of herself because no man should treat anyone like he treats you.GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN.
I am so dearly sorry you are going through this :( i cannot imagine the pain you have been enduring. im sorry to say this but your husband is an evil jerk...well...jerk just doesnt seem too fitting..asshole...please leave him. you deserve to be valued and loved dont put up with this. hes acting out of his own selfish desires..if you are planning on going to court for this, take pictures of all of the times he bruised you for evidence. maybe keep a recording of all the times hes left mean phone messages? get your children out of this environment, they shouldnt see any of this.
If you look at hubby's Mom you get your answer to why he behaves the way he does. If he has been hitting and choking you take pictures and keep a log or diary of when it happened meaning the day the time and if you can the details of why it happened. You need to clean his effin clock and get everything you can when you make the move and leave. Please don't wait any longer then necassary if he gets suspisious of your intentions it could make him lose it. There is never a good reason to hit a woman and you need to teach him that by cleaning him out in divorce. Good luck to you and I hope you have family to help support you in this time of need :)
He doesn't hate you...he hates himself. Cheating is a way for him to boost his own lowered self esteem, the same way verbally or physically abusing you is. He is angry at himself and also thinks less of you for putting up with it even though he expects you to. He is selfish, self centered, and has no empathy or compassion for others. He may SAY he loves you, but the things you mention are ALL unhealthy ways of expressing ';love';.





His mother will defend him to the ends of the earth and justify his behavior further enabling him to continue acting the way he does. She most likely played a role in the way he feels about himself.





Do yourself a favor and love yourself for you. YOU know what a wonderful person YOU are...do not let HIM dictate that for you. You deserve better!! Take your kids out of the extremely toxic situation you are in. They are all bearing the brunt of the effects, the same as you. Seek counseling if you need it for you and the kids.





He is not going to change unless he himself wants to. Even if he does, it doesn't mean you will still want to be with him. Perhaps he can make himself a better person for him. That shouldn't be your concern anymore. Focus on making yourself a better person...for YOU and your children. The first step is one you already have gained the strength to do...leaving!!





Try not to worry about his motivations or how or why he does things. It will only confuse the way you feel about things as you try to justify his behaviors or excuse them even when there is no excuse.





GOOD LUCK and BIG HUGS!!
some guys are low and unbelieveable. just like he sounds. you deserve better. so do your 3 babies. don't stay and let them go through this. you can find a man who will be faithful, and love you and your kids. good luck