I have mild feelings of insecurity. I don't accuse her of infidelity but fear that it could happen under the right circumstances. I also fear that I could do it under the right circumstances as well. I didn't always feel this way. I think naughty bedroom talk and porn have created feelings of insecurity in me. Also, an old boyfriend of hers stopped by a few times while I was at work and she was really friendly to him. Feelings of insecurity arose when I had to tell her to shut down the relationship with him. I felt like she should have done it herself without my asking.
For other people the problem could stem from baggage from previous relationships. Maybe you unintentionally seem overly flirtatious to him. There could be all kinds of things creating a feeling of insecurity. It might be a very solvable problem if you can get to the root causes. However, solving the problem will probably take time.If someone is constantly accusing you of infidelity?
Wow..that's a loaded question...like you said having an affair is never justified, and nothing ';drives'; a perdon to have an affair, they have one because they want to, period, b/c we are all in charge of our actions and no one can push you to do anything. That being said, if your significant other is afraid you are going to cheat on them and is insecure aoubt it, it's because he/she has issues that have nothing to do with you. You can try until you are in the boyue in the face to convince them that you are not going to cheat but if they feel you are then they feed on that negativity probably due to it happeni eg to them in the past, who knows. If you remain with them and stay committed to nly them, they should realize that you are not an adulterer, but if it comes to the point of making the relationship unbearable then it may be time to step back and re-evaluate whteher or not it's worth staying in. Good luck.
If someone is constantly accusing you of infidelity it just means they are deeply insecure, unless you are a big flirt, of course. So, the best thing to do is seek therapy together so that you can work on a more serene relationship.
It's a mind-shift they have to make and there are no words on this planet that will convince him otherwise. It's inside his/her head.
If therapy is not an option, you will probably have to learn to ignore it. Not easy, I know.
No one can ';make'; you do anything you don't want to do. If they are accusing you of cheating it could mean that they are going the same thing or, like you said, they are just that insecure. There is only so much you can do to pacify those insecurities. If you are being truthful and they still don't believe you then we have other issues to deal with.
Save both of you the down-the-road pain and cut it loose. I know this isn't what you want to hear but with one hald accusing and the other accepting, both of you have insecurities that either of you are capable of resolving. Be glad it is rearing it's ugly head now rather than before the alter.
NO it would not drive me to have an affair. If I loved someone there is no way I would even be interested in anyone else. I would assure him by telling him some of the things you've mentioned here. I'd assure him I love him, only him %26amp; have no interest in anyone else. This person is very insecure of themselves %26amp; afraid of loosing you. Just do your best to reassure him...best to you...:)
Well it all depends in how mature the person is. Sometimes when someone is accused frequently of infidelity they'll go out and do it just so that you'll have a real reason to accuse them. It seems to be very common. Never gone through it tho.
well since infidelity was committed its more than an accusation in the instance i am knowledgeable of...but you are right, if you have been taught to be faithful then you have the strength to stay true... the other person obviously has issues.
it probably could, sure because trust is a huge factor in making a relationship work!
and if a person is basically accusing someone it is clear they don't trust their partner already.
It is the primary sign that you are in an unhealthy/abusive relationship. GOOGLE IT.
When someone is accusing you of cheating, then THEY are.........guaranteed in about 95% of the relationships. If you are being accused of something, it's because the other person is doing it. FACT.
My theory is if someone is constantly accusing you of infidelity it is because they are guilty of that offense. I would NEVER deal with a guy that doesn't trust me.
Uh, if someone is constantly accusing me of cheating, I'D LEAVE THAT MINUTE!!!!!
The person is very, very insecure and NOTHING YOU CAN SAY WILL CHANGE THAT!!!!!!!!
usually if a partner keeps accusing you if sleeping with someone else they have done it their selves and are extremaly insecuree of they feeling.
False accusations and love don't go together. Honestly if someone accused me falsely I'd simply leave. They have no trust in the relationship.
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