What steps do I take to leave my husband?

My husband is no longer the man I met 10 years ago, we were very young at the time and in college. 10 years later he is still that childish guy instead of growing up like the rest of the world. We have had many issues with drugs and infidelity in the last year. I'm scared to leave him for his issues, to find another man that will have issues to deal with. Any ideas how to be strong and make the move?What steps do I take to leave my husband?
if you don't have a backbone yet, you may never. you will just go back and forth. enjoy this cyclical abuse for the rest of your life.What steps do I take to leave my husband?
one big one out the door !
If your not happy let him know and leave, you have been there for him 10 years thats a long time, and if dont get know he never will, do what makes you happy life is too short, hes a grown a*s man he needs to face reality and get it together. I know it hurts but you have to start your healing process to to lead a fulfillful life. Best of Luck to you and remember STAY SRONG!!
If you are scared to leave him for all those temporary issues, then you will have to face these issues permanently. Think of your next 50 years or more, you will have the courage to do what you want.
The problem is all inside your head


She said to me


The answer is easy if you


Take it logically


I鈥檇 like to help you in your struggle


To be free


There must be fifty ways


To leave your lover





She said it鈥檚 really not my habit


To intrude


Furthermore, I hope my meaning


Won鈥檛 be lost or misconstrued


But I鈥檒l repeat myself


At the risk of being crude


There must be fifty ways


To leave your lover


Fifty ways to leave your lover





CHORUS:


You just slip out the back, Jack


Make a new plan, Stan


You don鈥檛 need to be coy, Roy


Just get yourself free


Hop on the bus, Gus


You don鈥檛 need to discuss much


Just drop off the key, Lee


And get yourself free





She said it grieves me so


To see you in such pain


I wish there was something I could do


To make you smile again


I said I appreciate that


And would you please explain


About the fifty ways





She said why don鈥檛 we both


Just sleep on it tonight


And I believe in the morning


You鈥檒l begin to see the light


And then she kissed me


And I realized she probably was right


There must be fifty ways


To leave your lover


Fifty ways to leave your lover
You have to make decision for yourself first and then it will come to your mind what and how to do.


I was afraid and scare before I made my decision. Than I felt that it's not going to be worst than I have it right now, it must be only better! So I made my mind about divorce and went to see an attorney. Step by step process began.


I counted all my credits and debits, ';+'; and ';-'; and figured it out that I AM going to survive very well.


AND...I DID.


Good Luck.
I don't answer too many of these but you appear to need some solid help, here.....





Assuming that you have had chats with him regarding your concerns, and that counseling led to no improvement, and you do indeed wish to bail... the following ought to help. (If not, try some counseling first -- it may help, but with betrayal and addictions, don't count on much, hon)





Firstly, if the guy has cheated, that is the ultimate deal-buster in a marriage..... relationships/marriages are respect, admiration passion and trust. The trust is gone -- he has shared his body and soul with another woman/women, betraying your trust and your relationship, and for sure your admiration and respect for the guy is pretty much in the toilet. So, at this point, you really don't even have a marriage, you have a roommate of the opposite sex. If he has been a druggie, as you probably know, he is already in a relationship -- it just isn't with you.... addicts of any sort just aren't available -- they are already taken... be the addiction drugs, porn, gambling, alcohol, sex, other women, or whatever, they certainly are more dedicated to any of those than they ever can be to your relationship. He would need a major attitude adjustment of many years duration to change 10 years of this sort of behavior... And, hon, life is toooooo short to waste....





How to get out? Internalize some of this stuff, read it again, go back to your counselor and get some more of your head screwed on straight. Don't leave a home you have invested in together, because you financially will loose, so use a mediating attorney who will represent you both. (Find one in the Yellow pages under Attorney - Divorce - Mediating.) If you get into an adversarial position of each of you with an attorney, you both loose -- they'll each get about $6000, drag it on forever, and there goes your buckos.





Leaving an awful situation for the unknown is always scary,--- at least you know what you have. but hon, how could it be any worse? And there are tons of guys out there who just want a nice lady for a wife, and someone who has their act together. You don't have all of it together yet, but you will. In a year's time, you'll be fine. If you stay, in two years, you still be in this same mess.
Honey, just keep say to yourself that it the right thing to do and you are a strong women, that deserves the best! Don't settle for crumbs. Just begin making little steps intill your out the door. those issues of drugs and infidelity are his problems, not yours! Get away from him, he's dragging you down with him.





Been there
walk away and pray it works