How to deal with father-in-law's comments?

My father-in-law always feels he has to comment when a young, attractive female is on the TV. Obviously I understand that men are going to look and appreciate beauty, but his comments often make me feel very uncomfortable- he usually comments on their breasts, sometimes pretending that he has his head between them. He does this in front of his wife, who appears to be OK with it but it makes me feel repulsed- my father would never do anything so degrading in front of me and my mother.


He also condones any infidelity that is shown on the TV, and if a man has slept with a high number of women behind their wife's back he says things like, 'Nice one! Good on him!'


I think that because he has not got a daughter, he doesn't appreciate that comments like this are often inappropriate and I am also worried about his behaviour influencing his son.


How do I deal with this sort of behaviour? Just ignore it? I don't really want to discuss it with my partner, he idolises his father and I'm worried that it will drive a wedge between them if I say anything.How to deal with father-in-law's comments?
You speak to your husband about his father's comments..how uncomfortable you are and in hopes that you husband will then speak to his fatherHow to deal with father-in-law's comments?
You could simply ignore him or respond ';I'm glad I don't have a sorry, good for nothing husband llike that.'; Or you could say ';Its really sad how men with small penis's have such a hard time trying to find someone they can please.'; He sounds like hes just trying to get an reaction out of you but don't fall for it.
He s obviously starved for attention.........so ignore him and don t provide it.
I'd be a bit wary if I was you. Your partner 'idolises' his father. Sure, that's fairly natural, but at the same time he's had a lifetime of conditioning to his father's vulgar behaviour. Sooo..... it may be only a matter of time before the boy becomes the man..... Interesting too that Mrs Vulgar seems to have managed to switch off to her hubby's juvenile behaviour. It's a fairly safe bet that she's as repulsed as you, but gave up years ago.





One of your other respondents suggested you speak out and/or stay away. I agree. There's no point in appearing to raise your tolerance level to this type of behaviour when in reality you're lowering your own standards. Doing nothing isn't an option. ( it never is)





If you've got that wedge handy, I'd be happy to let you borrow my mallet. Sooner the better.





Best wishes.
I am not sure what not having a daughter would have to do with this.





Some people have very low standards of behaviour, but there isn't really much you can do about his behaviour in his own home. If he repulses you so much, simply stay away from him. If your partner asks why, then tell him.





Remember though that people say things they don't mean all the time.