Wednesday, August 18, 2010

How to get over a cheating spouse...?

So my husband and I have been together for 5 years, we have been married for almost a year. He's 23, I'm 21. We were ready for marriage but when we were surprised with pregnancy 2 weeks before the wedding, we weren't prepared. Obviously we had to deal with it and now we have a beautiful daughter. When I was around the 6.5 month pregnant mark, my husband became extremely depressed. He has been dealing with depression for about 7 years now. We started counseling because it was taking a huge toll on our relationship. Recently I was going to use his phone to find an extremely dirty sexual message from some girl. I was horrified. After the freak out and talking about it for hours, he told me he'd met her at work (he's a hairdresser and she's one of his clients) and that they went for coffee once and then begun texting each other. She was sharing with him her pain from a recent breakup - classic. And when the text messages started to become suggestive on her end, he encouraged it by saying things about how she had a good body and she'd probably look good naked etc. I have decided to forgive him but I don't know how to get over the pain and get over the fact that he deceived me. I believe him that he didn't sleep with her but to me the text messaging is already infidelity. Any tips on how to move forward after something like this?How to get over a cheating spouse...?
Moving forward is the key. You have to focus on the future. Nothing can ever change the past. If you truly believe him and want to be with him then your only option is to not look back. Focus on creating a relationship in which you communicate in a way that such a think won't happen ever again.How to get over a cheating spouse...?
What we know to be true is usually right. Some times we just need to hear it from someone else to be sure.

Report Abuse



Sweetie there is nothing we can tell you to take your pain away. You just have to forgive him and not look at the past. If you truly believe him that he has not cheated and you want to give him another chance then you really need to give him the chance. Move forward clean, that goes for the both of you and do not bring up the past all the time...
unfortunatly i think he has probably cheated on you with her. sorry. i don't really know what to tell you except either separate him (because i gurantee you that he did cheat he's just not man enough to tell you, or stick it out and accept what he did and forgive him, if you can.
more counseling. he royally screwed up and needs to make a huge effort to win back your trust. honestly, i don't know that i would stay married to him, but then again, we don't have kids yet. listen to your gut feelings.
You believed him when he said he didn't cheat??? Think again...
texts aren't infidelity... they are harmless...





perhaps you just need to get perspective...

No comments:

Post a Comment