Ex-wife question?

Ok.


Im in the process of a divorce - we were married 7 years - and have a 6 1/2 year old son.


The reasons for the breakup were financial difficulties, poor communication - but mainly her infidelity.


For a while things were pretty bad between us - but I decided to just try to remain as civil as possible with her for the sake of our son. So far its been ok.


When I deal with her face to face - in regards to our son - I just get this very uncomfortable feeling inside me . She's friendly but very business-like, in terms of ';ok this week you will have him, this is your share of the school expense for our son etc.. ';


Its like she's become a completely different person. The fact that she cheated on me and lied about it - still really eats me up inside .


But I try my best to just let it go - to avoid an argument. Not easy.


I hate how her actions has destroyed our marriage - and denied our son a stable family unit.


Has anyone else felt the same way as I do?Ex-wife question?
Oh, yes. Not an unusual reaction at all. It will take some time to get past all this. Just know that you are handling this in a mature way that will benefit you and your son in the long run. I admire you for putting him first and not creating a hostile environment around him.Ex-wife question?
Hey quit so special, (same story,just differtent names%26amp;face). Get over the crappy past, deal with her on a business level, Be so polite, that she'll relaize how dumb she really was!!! But get on with your life, and make ready 4 a great futrue with your son!!! The world is full of great gals, (and some of them have had their feelings hurt too)!!! But there is no going back, she's not yours any more.. GOOD LUCK TO YA
Been there done that. Try changing your perspective. Think about how thankful you are that you are no longer in a relationship with someone who is unfaithful. Try to be happy that you did not waste one more year in an unhappy situation.


You have not denied your son of a stable life. Growing up watching parents cheat and lie to each other is denying him a stable family unit. Children will do fine as long as the parents are civil, respectful and do not involve their children in turmoil. Conflict is the most harmful thing to children, whether they come from a married or a divorced household. Keep doing what you have been doing. Remain civil and keep your son removed from any conflict and turmoil.


When you find a good quality relationship your anger will lessen and you will be even more thankful that you ended a bad relationship in order to allow for a good one.
yes many people both male and female feel the same after being decieved. Let it go, after all she was the cheater and deciever, she was the person swimming in s**t, you will find a nice person sometime, she will always be the cheater. You win.
This one is trouble, you need to focus on being and father/mentor to your son and forget about the X. Her mind is somewhere else right now. As long as you focus on her, you will get your feelings hurt more and more. Keep it moving, life does not stop here. I've been there and done that. Do all the things that you want to do in life, it is short. The right woman will come along when you least expect it. Your son needs you so do not make a mess of things.
Hi, I haven't been divorced but just wanted to tell you I'm sorry that you are hurt. I think it's really great of you to not fight in front of your son. I don't blame you for wanting to lash out at your ex. It does sound like she isn't the person you thought she was. She broke most of her vows. I know you will need time to heal and reflect on yourself, but your dream of a stable family isn't lost forever. There is someone right for you and your son out there. Good luck.
Sweet Pea it is normal to feel this way do to the circumstances. Only time can heal the hurt that you truly feel. It is not easy moving on but you have to sometimes let it go before it makes you bitter instead of better. Good Luck!
A person in love with their spouse despite difficulties doesnt usually make a plan b...(in case of this or that person no longer in your life)





bitterness aside...make a plan b. youre a good person. take care of yourself and your child and the rest of your life should fall into place peacefully. tood luck
The nice thing about it is it will take someone extra special to make you forget.





The past is the past and you have a whole new chapter to write in your book of life.
When you described the reasons for the breakup, you listed the infidelity last. You seem to not want to see that this is the strongest reason to divorce her. It sure is normal to be bothered about the cheating. Remember that she was cheating and lying to the other person too. She is the one that is at fault and you need not feel guilty in anyway. Your son does not have to have an unstable parent-child relationship. For him to make it you will need to get over her and focus on him and his environment. You will be better for it and it can help you to recover. There are groups with your same situation that get together to help out some problems. Good luck!