Do you think serious couples should discuss infidelity before it happens?

It seems logical to me that with all the cheating going on in the world it would be better for couples to confront this as a dialogue in the beginning of a relationship. I'm not just talking about a simple assumption that there will be no cheating. I'm talking more of a in depth and realistic look at what may or may not cause it or how the couple plans to deal with it as well as the history of it and the nature of men vs women when it comes to relationships, sex etc. I think that most people are afraid to deal with it because discussing it may come across as condoning it or jinksing the relationship. It just seems logical that this one of a couples biggest pitfalls, so why not discuss it in the beginning and be frank about it especially if marriage is in the picture?Do you think serious couples should discuss infidelity before it happens?
Yeah, I think it's absolutely smart to let such important topics out in the open BEFORE marriage. That way they are both clear on what the other person's beliefs are. Do you think serious couples should discuss infidelity before it happens?
I don't see the point. You can sit down, talk, and try to set up a cheating safety net, but if you're talking to a cheater, it won't change a thing. They'll promise you anything, that's what wedding vows are, and they'll still lie to you when they want to do it.





And you won't need to have that talk with someone who REALLY cares for you. They'll more than likely come to you anyway if they feel something might threaten their relationships.



As much as i agree with you, people do not discuss it in a calmer manner. You are likely to here phrases like ';if you cheat on me, am gonna chop your balls off'; or ';... am gonna kill you'; and stuff like that. That sort of discussion will lead to NOWHERE. We must be a little civilized about how we go by discussing difficult issues like that.
i agree with you they should discuss it to let there opinions and feelings known not to assume the other knows how important it is to you.
Agreed. A realistic discussion prevents and prefaces so many pitfalls.
I think so...open communication is a key in keeping a relationship together and happy
I've been married for 5 years.


From day one I told my husband that I'll leave him if he cheats on me or lays hands on me.