Narcissist wife having an affair?

my wife of 11 years has been having an affair for just over 2 years, we have 2 young kids and she continues to have the affair to a guy 16years her senior who is also married and has 3 kids.


admittedly, i have been doing the duties of responsible parent for the kids, schooling, haircuts, doctors, shopping, cooking, cleaning blah. she comes and goes as she pleases and treats life as if nothing is wrong. she has had Hep C for over 17 years and drinks every night and goes out 2 or 3 times per week. I have told her to leave but she wont, she then threatens me, but due to the kids i cant do alot unless she tires of the situation and moves out. How do I show her that im the parent who can offer the kids a stable environment. She is a narcissist, how do i deal with her?


the Australian law does not see infidelity a cause for child custody.Narcissist wife having an affair?
Im pretty sure you could get custody!!





If you have proof af all that then the kiddies are yours!! Especially if your wife does have Hep C and your kiddies dont.... use that!!! say you are worried about your kiddies contracting it!





See a good solicitor!!! You may have to pay a bit for one but it shouldnt take long to get custody especially if you have a good job... or you have been the main career!! go on about how you are worried she will run with the kiddies or neglect them (as it sounds like she is!!)





Kick her butt to the curb your kiddies deserve more than that from their mummy!Narcissist wife having an affair?
She knows the laws over there and she is playing you like a harp. If you don't get out of this relationship or go to counceling then your mental state will break down. You also might catch a disease from her. The drinking has to stop. She is a toxic parent.
Than what does Aussie Law allow for..? Find a different Loophole and move on that one. Until she realizes what she is losing...she will continue to flaunt her freedom to do so.





See a lawyer. Find a way to TAKE CONTROL of this situation. For YOU %26amp; YOUR KIDS!





Get Busy
I would get a good attorney and document her actions, file for divorce and ask for full custody.
document everything...and get a great attorney..............it will make a difference at some point.
drinking might!
What? You don't own a shovel?
australian law doesn't see adultery as a cause for custody, but i sure do! if someone can't respect her husband and kids and be a good wife and mother, and has such low morals, why should they get custody? it's outrageous i say!





anyway, maybe you should look at moving out if you can't kick her out, and take the kids with you. if you care for the kids now while she is out partying and catching sti's, and you take care of all the household duties then you should be able to get primary custody at least.





try calling the family relationship advice line on 1800 050 321, national service available 8am- 8pm mon- fri. they will be able to point you in the right direction.
I love my chilren very much as you do your's but I would definitley not stay in that situation, no matter what would happen the fact of the matter is my kids deserve better and so do I. If the courts did award her custody of the kids, I can assure you it would only be for a little while and they would insist of living with you. Good Luck!
Cover your *** in paperwork! Document everything!


Document all those times she disappears and leaves the kids with you - what she says and how she acts, and the children's reactions to her. Record when she ';...comes and goes as she pleases and treats life as if nothing is wrong';


Document every time she misses the children's events because of her drinking.


Take notes of any times she's badly behaved around the kids because of her drinking, or leaves them alone because she wants to go out.


Keep notes of the things you do for them - ';...schooling, haircuts, doctors, shopping, cooking, cleaning...';


Get proof of her on-going affair and her risky behavior with the Hep C.


Keep all that away from her eyes, least she catch onto what you are up to, and makes temporary changes to cover up.


Then when you have enough proof, take it to the courts. Your chances are much better then.