Wednesday, August 11, 2010

Ex-Girlfriend has a new boyfriend but still has feelings for me..advice?

We talked for about 2 months and after we had been dating for about a month, she cheated on me at a party(got drunk and took bars, made a mistake) and I didn't find out about this until 2 months later. She said the reason she hadn't told me was because she was afraid it would ruin our relationship. Well now that I look back, I actually agree with her because I think she genuinely felt terrible about it. You see about 3 weeks after she had cheated on me, was when we had our first ';I love you'; conversation and I remember her tear up when I told her, and I asked her why, and she just told me that she was so happy, but later after I had found out she cheated she admitted that it was because when I told her I loved her she felt terrible about it and had realized the mistake she made. One more thing before I go on, throughout the 2 months after she cheated on me before I found out, our relationship began to take off and turned into something amazing. We always had that great chemistry, for example, throughout the whole time we were dating, we'd find ourselves saying the same thing at the same time literally 3-4 times everytime we saw each other. The sex was incredible, some of that had to do with the great physical attraction between us, but it got better the deeper and closer we got to each other. We always knew how to make each laugh, we could have fun together anywhere, anytime. We could cut up and have fun, and we could get serious and have those deep conversations. We became great lovers, and even better friends. It was basically the best time in our relationship. Well after I found out, I broke up with her for about a week and half. She wrote me letters, apologized, promised that it wouldn't happen agian, everything. She even said she wouldn't move back to Dallas, that's how much this relationship meant to her. See she was originally from Dallas and had moved here, about a 2 hour drive, and had been living here about 2 months before we met, and had been talking about moving back to Dallas after the first month we'd been dating. I finally decided that she was human just like me and made a mistake. We got back together and she actually did try to gain my trust back. She always called and let me know where she was, who she was with, didn't party, didn't leave me any room to doubt her. Well her being my first love and sexual partner, I was kinda torn up about the whole thing cause I had never dealt with infidelity before. I tried to trust her but ended up questioning her all the time, acting jealous, being a dick basically, which I know had a negative affect on her, because before I found out that she had cheated, I never questioned her, never asked her about who she was with or what she was doing in a prying kinda way, I was cool cause I trusted her. Well after about 2 months of this, she moved back to Dallas because her stepdad had physically hurt her and things at her mom and stepdad's just was going well. We'd see each other every week, and I'd either stay at her dads with her for 2-3 days or shed stay at my parents with me for 3-4 days. Well after about a month months of this, when I'm down there seeing her, I find out from her phone that she had been talking to another guy who she had met at her work(where I lived). I called him and he didn't even know she had a boyfriend, and sounded equally upset. He told me how they had been talking for about a month and a half or so and how they only hung out 2 times, once she went and saw him when he got outta school and once over at his friends, where she tried to kiss him after she had been drinking, but he refused and told her that he wasn't gonna take advantage of her. The couple times they hung out was when she lived here, cause she moved to Dallas he moved to Austin. Well I brought this to her and she was embarassed/guilty/ sad and told me how there was a big part of her holding onto this relationship hoping that I would start to trust her and things would go back to normal but another part of her that started to think that I would never trust her and was getting tired of the way I was acting. Well she ended up coming down with me and spent about 5 days, us trying to work things out. Well after she went back, I tried calling this guy a couple times, she found out, and she called me really pissed and told me how she wanted to take a break cause while part of really wanted this to work, parted of her wanted her freedom agian. She said it wasn't for her to meet other guys or anything, but that she had gotten tired of me staying on her all the time about where she was or who she was with and just wanted to be able to hang out with her friends without getting griped at. Well I gave her her space and let her come to me, she texted me everyday and all that. Well after about a week, she called saying that she wanted me back cause she really missed me and missed how I made her feel and bein in my arms and all that jazz. I made her wait 3 days to really think about it anEx-Girlfriend has a new boyfriend but still has feelings for me..advice?
The fact that you wrote all of that obviously means that you care alot about her...if not romanticly, then like a best friend...ask her if she is sure she actually has feelings for you...or if it is just loving you so much as a friend. If she does have feelings for you. ask her if she loves you more then her boyfriend. If so, then kindly ask her why she doesnt brake up with her boyfriend. If she is unsure then she is probably not worth it. Move on.Ex-Girlfriend has a new boyfriend but still has feelings for me..advice?
You should try to publish this novel.
u story is 2 long 2 read bt niway hav u had da song 'walk away'

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