Any ideas on how to get one's spirits up?

This past year has taken a toll on me going through an unwanted divorce and trying to deal with husbands infidelity that ultimately ended our 16 year marriage. Can't seem to shake the hurt, any ideas?Any ideas on how to get one's spirits up?
My good friend went through the same problem as you. Her marriage lasted 22 years and she was totally unprepared for it. Like the other suggestions, you do have to step aside and view things in a different light. Travel is good. Look up old friends etc. Eventually you will get over it.





Focus yourself on new goals and directions instead of looking backwards. Above all don't feel bitter. It has happened to many others before and you are not alone.





I gave my friend this book by Susie and Otto Collins. She found it very useful. (Heal Your Broken Heart.)


http://stopyourdivorcecoach.com/heal_your_broken_heart.htmAny ideas on how to get one's spirits up?
Hi! We should talk, I feel your pain, my wife had an affair and left me with 4 kids, she left over 3 yrs ago....I am fine now, what I did is I gave my heart to Jesus, that keeps your spirits up, I forgave her, and it has healed my heart, God hates a broken heart or divorce, He can help you through anything.....Jesus loves you
Keep busy, stop talking to people about him, go out and socialize as much as possible without going crazy. ( I hope what I mean with crazy)
I have never been through anything like that...but I do feel for you. What really helps me is to write things down. Not that I ever show them to anyone but...it always makes me feel better. List some things you would like to do in ur life. Then go from there. As far as the hurt you are feeling I am not sure it ever goes away. It will only make you a stronger person. Stay close to friends and family right now....Remember that god is always with you and loves you!
Love, the sad thing about a situation like yours is that though you are the victim you end up carrying too much of the burden of your ex's past actions.Find a good support system around you.though it may make you feel good to have people who want to throw pity parties around you,do not be party to them.other men still find you attractive hit the dating scene as soon as you can.Don't let anyone tell you It is too soon.Join a dance class and if there are children find someone to keep them while you take vacations to clear your head.Most of all,let the cheater bear his own cross.don't carry it around with you


























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I'm just a push over I guess, but after ten years of the 1000 yr marrige, I decided that regardless of what damage it did to me, or her, I had to stop the pain, I couldn't stand another 10 years He may not notice the other woman's being fat in a dress, but he did with you. He won't notice the other woman being a foul mouthed skanky scum sucker, cause she's wrapping her filty lips around his package..but you'll be happy that you never sunk to such depths. He'll never see you in anything that came straight out of a group grope in a porno movie, you favorite color will remain faithfully brown. If you really want to feel better, bust up a few marriages yourself. He's not coming back to biscuits and gravey, he's living on hair pie. What do you think he left you for. Cause of the hurt you were putting on him. It's real hard to turn down great skank when the choice is frozen potatos I advise you to realevaluate why you have anything to do with men. I mean, what's in it for you? Then go take dance lessons, learn to play a few killer games on a computer. Learn to hum the battle hymm of the Republic. Get hot. .
That's a tough 1. What i had to do is get to know me. made myself go out by myself .Got a journal %26amp; starting writing all my feelings down. I found a church started going to a support group %26amp; getting involved in the community. I'm sure your ex is not sitting around. I had to learn to love myself. Life is so short%26amp; we have to turn it around. I also walk 1-2 miles a day. God be with you %26amp; give you strengh %26amp; guidence.


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I have just went through the same thing with my wife after an 11yr marriage. I dont believe there is a magic cure for the hurt but this helps me a little. I remind myself that it is better for me to hurt now and eventually be healed later than the constant pain I would endure with an unfaithful spouse. I believe I will be healthier and happier in the long run if I no longer have to deal with the unfaithfulness. Someone in a like situation may be looking for someone like you. Hold your head high and be proud of yourself. Don't let your ex know you hurt and don't be a yoyo. let them know/think once your gone you are gone for good and that you will be hard to replace. Most unfaithfulness has more to do with lust than love and only a fool would exchange lust for love. In the mean time stay busy. stay in touch with loved ones, go for walks and keep a smile on your face.
Give it to God. That is the only way. Going out may be fun for the moment, but it is only momentary pleasure. Pray and give your burdens to God. It will get better.
Take as many trips around the country and the world as you can. Just think how free you are now. You can meet new people and have fun.


Good luck.
shure just go out and have a good time then decide you are not going to be sad anymore
I am sorry that this has happened to you. I have been in your shoes recently. It does hurt, but you have to ask yourself, are you better off with him or without him?





If you can NOT trust him - and it seems as though you can NOT - then you are better off without him.





Keep in touch with your friends - reminisce about old times - especially those that made you laugh the most - watch a really funny movie - If you have kids - spend time with them outside - go to the park - watch cartoons -





Keep telling yourself that this is NOT your fault - and keep telling yourself that YOU deserve better.





As time passes, the hurt will heal and one day, just as I did - you will ask yourself - What did I ever see in him in the first place. (Had I been a drug user, it would explain it, but I am NOT) Who knows - maybe he is just as miserable and if not - remember - what goes around comes around - he will eventually get his.





I went on line to http://www.classmates.com - registered - and connected with an old friend - and we have been happily married for 5 years now.





Good luck to you -
Not easy at all .If your not in a hurry to get another man then the best think to do is find a hobby that you really enjoy or maybe start a small business anything to keep yourself occupied. After my break up i started building solar panels getting into the art of solar . Ive been doing it so long now that my home runs totally off solar energy now i have no bills except water but I'm going to figure out a way to by pass that also . Well i can go on and on about solar but its better then thinking about the ex all day