If you want your marriage to survive you need to get to couples counseling NOW!
You both need to learn to resolve marital differences without raging or walking out. It's not difficult once you learn how to control your anger.
You also need to talk to the therapist about why your husband MUST be with someone ALL the time.
Did he really think your relationship was impossible to salvage?
Why does he think it's so fragile?
Does he REALLY want to spend his life with you?
If so, then why did he turn to another when you hit a bump in the road?
You both really need to know the answers to these questions, or this behaviour will probably repeat.How do you forgive infidelity in a marriage and how do you deal with it?
Best of luck to you both, Elise.
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You won the competition, so it would be fault-finding to deal with that 1 or 2 kisses that happened. Your husband hesitated, but finally decided, this happens to those persons who are not so ugly that they could hardly find a partner in the life. Try to be a good friend of that other girl, and time to time invite her for a chat or a dinner. The situation is more comic than tragic, beleive me.
leave him right now, he will not change at all, u will regret a lot later...
I am sorry to hear that you are in such a confusing and upsetting situation. But you have to know this under no uncertainty...your Husband/Boyfriend is unstable and is not truly in love with you! If he can be so disrespectful to your marriage already you are in for a horrible marriage and lots of emotional stress!
This is not a situation that warrants forgivness. This will take something more!!!!..............you will need to trust yourself!
Simple...yet very difficult to do...trust your own feelings.
You need to find a quiet place....close your eyes and ask yourself if this is what you really want in your life...such chaos!
As many will tell you this guy will never respect you as his wife much less a friend...you need to resolve this within yourself to find the strenght to do what will free you to find someone who will treat you as someone truly loved!
There is a reason why this has happened so early in this marriage....don't close your eyes to the truth!
Good Luck!
It sounds like he still cares for this other girl! Let her have him, you don't need someone like that. I wish you luck sounds like you are going to need lots of it!
counseling. NOW!
If he refuses, get an annullment and get out.
well he married you.
she's not his fiancee. she's his nothing. ok, he's immature but he married you. finally he will realize this as all the other men before him during the ages....
Neither of you is ready to get married.
sounds to me like he wasn't ready to make such a mature commitment as marriage anyway.
sounds to me like this other chic just wanted to see if she could wreck whatever life he had built since he got rid of her the first time.
sounds to me like you are in a situation that is a bit over your head.
you need to realize that unless he is willing to straighten up and make things different, you would only be wasting your time.
sit him down, and call him out on it. make him make a decision. either he wants to be in the marriage or he wants out. its that simple. time to grow up. tell him to make his decision, but be ready for the answer, my dear. you may not hear what you want to hear.
get things out in the open now. if you start your marriage off my lying and hiding and cheating, you are doomed to a life of depression and sadness. no one deserves a life like that.
if he can't grow up and live up to the commitment that he made, then kick him to the curb. there is a guy out there some where that will give you 100% of himself, i promise. life is to short to waste on losers.
You were broke up... I must be missing something. If you were not together at the time per your own admission, how is that infidelity?
Pack him up and send him to that girl.
i did not try to work out my cheating ex i ';walked out';, smartest move i ever MADE!. HOWEVER IF YOU WERE NOT TOGETHER it's not cheating. i don't belive for a second they were just kissing because she still had a gf. Sounds dumb why did she take a promise ring from him if she had a gf?
Send him packin. All relationships have problems and dat wasn't the way to handle urs he needs to go.
I would leave. Forgiving someone for cheating is important, but forgetting about it is another thing. For your own sanity, leave. There are better, more committed, more loving, fish in the sea.........
This is not infidelity, it's indiscretion on your husband's part. If your husband has apologized to you for his behavior, then you need to let this go. True, he did not act appropriately, but forgiveness is what counts here. You're a newly-wed....forgive and love this man for who he is today...not hate him for what he did yesterday....
I wish you the best of luck in your new marriage. Trust...that's what long lasting relationship are made of. Please forgive him...
i seriously suggest that if you can have this marraige annulled, please do that. Seek legal help as soon as you can.
I'm sorry, but this guy sounds like scum. I don't know if there is a solution.
If this guy is going this far this early, can you imagine what kind of a ride your in for? I'd watch your husband verrrrry closely.
Sweetie, that is a really, really sad situation. Unfortunately it is very hard to deal with infidelity, it take a lot of time to get over. You need to sit down and really think about your relationship with your husband. Do you still love him and want to stay with him? Then find a way to work it out. Do you feel like you need to part and go your separate ways? Then get that started. Only time will ease your pain.
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