Without directly asking her?

I was in an accident a few years back, and now am much better physically. During my time recovering my wife beagn to ....chat with some overseas young men. Small gifts arrived every so often, phone ringing at 3am, etc...





She knew that I saw some of their emails on her screen a while back. I'm pretty sure she has a ';My Space'; site where she gets her emails from them now so I can't see them. I even think she may have sent one of them some money ( for a fathers operation....yea, right).





How do I find her ';My Space'; site to see if she is enticing their behavior?





She is a good woman, but I cannot deal with emotional infidelity.Without directly asking her?
Sorry, but a ';good'; married woman doesn't get small gifts from men, young or old that she chats with. IF she sent a guy money, she was stealing from your relationship AND being unfaithful. As for IF she's enticing them, she obviously is, or they wouldn't have had her address to send the gifts. All finding her My Space site would do is just force you to live with whatever garbage she has on the site. Having those pictures indelibly etched in your mind will do you no good. On this, I speak from experience.Without directly asking her?
Don't sneak like you think she is, it will only make things worse. You need to confront her.
tell her to stop it.
Everyone is always so quick to judge other people. I am a very kind hearted woman and I have a lot of male friends that are just that, friends. I have met some on myspace and we exchange emails. It sounds like your wife might be a nurturer. Maybe these men are depressed or have some sort of emotional problem that makes her feel good about herself to help by talking to them and giving advice. If you suspect she is developing feelings for these men you need to address your concern with her. If you feel she is being dishonest and you need to go investigate then by all means do so, but a healthy relationship is built on trust. If she is hiding something from you then odds are she isn't using her real name. If you open your internet browser and click on the history button, most often, if she hasn't deleted them, it will show you the emails if you click on the history of a message, even if you are not logged in. If you know the names of one or more of the men she is talking to you could search thier names on myspace, and find her through their friends list. Keep in mind that she is with you, she chose you. She is not going to visit these men is she? There is nothing wrong with a little harmless flirting now and then as long as it stops there. Good luck, and remember why you fell in love with her and what makes her such a good person, is it wrong on her part that other men admire her as long as she is home with you?
you can create an account and do a search for your wifes name. if that doesn't pull anyhting up do a search with her e-mail address. good luck
I couldn't either, so I'd sure ask........And after I got an answer, I'd see if I wanted to stay in this marriage. She sounds immature, and if she is getting involved with someone overseas, she's about to get scammed........
Simple, just search ';keyloggers'; on Google.





Buy one, install it, and pick a password. She will never know its there. These programs can take screenshots, log every keystroke including passwords, log websites and even monitor a web cam if you have one.





If its being done with the PC you will know for sure!
Get your own myspace account and do a search. Look for her name or her email address. You have to use an email on myspace. I would get an account in a different name and have some conversations with her and see what she does. I agree with the emotional infidelity, i had the same problems with my husband recently, but it was with porn and singles websites. I had a few tricks up my sleeve to stop him so email me and i will tell you what i did.
You can search for people by name on there
Did you try talking to her about it first? there are programs you can load onto your computer that monitor every single keystroke typed onto the computer. You can not only gain her screen name but her passwords and every single word she types into the computer. The program is called Keylogger and you can download it for free on the internet. Install it and away you go. Keep in mind though, when you are doing this you are bound to find things that are going to hurt you and it is a form of breaking the trust between the two of you so... I suggest you ask her first and talk to her about how it makes you feel. Give her the opportunity to make right what she has been doing wrong. Obviously if she is hiding it from you and you are feeling the way you are feeling then it is wrong for her to be doing. The internet is such a destructive tool when it comes to relationships, it makes it so easy for people to play in the fantasy world and people get so wrapped up they don't remember that when they are put in a real situation with the people they are talking to on the net they are going to have issues with them too. No relationship comes without work and no relationship is perfect. Do the right thing first and discuss it with her, like I said give her a chance to make it right. If she truly loves you she will and if not and you have to go the spy route, is it worth it? You already know the truth. Hard choices to make, especially when you love someone
Why in the world do you want to avoid directly working this out with her?





Sneaking around only makes things WORSE...rarely, if ever, better.





If you aren't able to talk to each other, then you need to be in counseling.