How do I deal with taking my acoholic husband back after he left for another woman? He is now sober and tryin?

We want to work things out, we've been married for 23 years and this is the first time this has happened. I know he left because there was a lack of communication. I withdrew from him because I felt he was giving too much attention to others than to me. I guess he took that as a reason to leave. Well, now he's back and we are trying to work things out. We used to be inseparable. Now I am having a hard time being myself with him. I can't help but think about the other woman when we are together. Especially since he speaks to her once in a while. I have a hard time with that. I am happy that he is sober, but how much longer can I hold on when he doesn't seem to understand how I feel about him staying in contact with her. He said she's in love with him. That doesn't help. He still wears a chain with a medal of Jesus on it. I asked him to remove it, but he says that it's Jesus, if it were a heart or something he would remove it. All it does is remind me of his infidelity.How do I deal with taking my acoholic husband back after he left for another woman? He is now sober and tryin?
I think you should support him as far as the stopped drinking part, but also let him know as long as he has contact with the other woman that there is not a chance in he$$ that you will ever commit to him or trust him again. It takes two to make a marriage work not one and although he has made a few changes he has not yet made the most important one of completly cutting all ties with this other woman.How do I deal with taking my acoholic husband back after he left for another woman? He is now sober and tryin?
honey !!! leave him even after 23 yrs leave him coz all those yrs dont mean anything to him if they did he would cherish you for ever and another woman mmmm... even if he says his changed but once a layer always is and desite the fact that his still commuicating with her honey all the signs are there he doesnt want you for you move on::: it will be hard but its time!!!
I have been in the same shoe. And I can say ,If you love him , You do have to think of the childern.(if any) I would make him work very hard for you ,Start completely over. Date and let him make all the movies ,It may not allways work .But most of the time it dose if he loves you.But you will see all the love he has for you If he dosent wont this then he cant have you, BUT he will come a round if he is for real and you stick with him working hard at it .You make sure you all ways look your best.Men won't what thay can't have .Think about it. thats what got him here in the first place.And remind him how you are injoying being a lone for a while.Have fun wiyh this . It will turn out to be the best thing you both ever did.
try to say that you still love him
i agree with you sucee because if the could leave you for another woman weather when he drankng or when he sobbr it;s a sing of thinng that's not gona get better you waiting for something to change in him when you should be changing you you should be changing the locks on your door. he not trying to give up the other woman because he want t o see how long your gona put up with his S*** befor you kick hin=m out so that way he won't feel as gulty like he did when he left the frist time now he waiting for you to do that for him . Just do it because before you know it you'll be the one drinking to adovid him Don't let him hurt you any longer. Save you self.
All I can say is THERAPY! For both you and him. And I agree with the others that he needs to work very hard at making sure you are secure. If he is still having anything to do with the woman he left you for then that is a deal breaker. With that being said, if he refuses therapy, then go for yourself and find the strength to do what it is you feel you must do.