How can you fix the problem of being married young and now regretting ';missing out';?

I married young (early 20s), ~4 years ago, as an idealist believing that lack of experiance and previous partners didn't matter to me etc. I never really played the field, having only 1 previous partner. My wife had a lot more ex's before marriage, and has now cheated on me. While the other parts of the infidelity I have begun dealing with (was some while back now) it has left me with a problem of feeling like I have missed out? Communication in a marriage is one thing but can I really say ';Look, I'm having issues because I really want to sleep with other women to see what it would be like';. And it really is that and not revenge. Is this something that can be dealt with or is it a lost cause? (btw I haven't acted on these feelings)





HelpHow can you fix the problem of being married young and now regretting ';missing out';?
You're not missing out on anything. Trust me. I was with my first love and we had a great sex life but I started to get curious about what other men would be like. Curiosity killed the cat. I ended up cheating on him when we were sort of split up, sort of still seeing if things were going to work out. It wasn't worth it. Ever since I have never had as good a lover. But hindsight is 20/20. I wish I knew then what I know now. I would still be with him. Of course, he never cheated on me. That makes it hard NOT to wonder if you're missing out since she hasn't kept herself only to you.





I think that you should tell her how you feel. Or maybe talk to a counselor about it first to see what they advise.





It's normal to feel curious about being with other people. Youd on't have to act on it though.





All the best.How can you fix the problem of being married young and now regretting ';missing out';?
Cheating is an immature, low self esteem, disrespectful, uncaring, intolerant, ignorant, dangerous, humiliating behavior. You stayed?? I would have put the bit-h out on her butt. You sure you didn't get a disease from her screwing a guy that may have aids--it is fatal you know!! You can't undo the early marriage--you did it and you admit you weren't ready. Well listen, mister--you better grab the old lady and tell her that you are NOT happy and she better start acting like a wife or you are out of there. Forget the other women crap---too late for that--it would make you the louse and the big loser in court. You want out??? Then go!! Stop the misery and indecision. Merry Christmas.
If you want to be with other women...than get a divorce. If you love your wife...you shouldn't want to be with other women. Once you have cheated there is no going back...the trust will be broken. Don't regret thinking you missed out by not playing the field. If you have a good wife and a good marriage...please don't mess it up just to play around. Be strong and I wish you the best.
It seems to me that there are many more issues here than you having ';missed out'; on something when you were younger.


Your wife cheated on you. That's a big deal. No wonder you feel like you've missed out. She not only went out and got it before you were married, but after as well.. and you.. you were a good boy. And now your hurting. You were the good one %26amp; you're the one that's hurting.


IMO you should tell your wife how you are feeling. Whatever results from that - it IS a risky thing to do. But your feelings have been stomped on enough. You should at least be able to talk about it.
by getting divorce.d not kiddign ive been there. dont waste away yur youth
If you take your marriage vows seriously, and you love your wife, then don't do something that you might regret. Just because she had done something wrong doesn't mean that you have to do the same.
The start of a new relationship has the lust lasting usually about 9 to 15 month's if there arent to many stress issues like money , kid's , ex partners so on and so forth.





By the 2nd year your still lusting , but you have more admiration and pride in your chosen partner.





When you reach the 3 year mark , your lust is fading into comfortability , you respect your spouse more and the honour and pride of knowing they are yours needs to be shown more in public then before .Your devotion to your spouse has set in about this time.


By the 4th year it's love and I mean true blown full love.A lot of people confuse lust with love and thats what they base their feelings and emotions on.





Love is about committment , trust , honesty , loyalty , devotion , admiration , the ability to be true to the spouse chosen without 2nd guessing or wondering what if.Love is about the comfortability and acceptance of life as it bring's you peace and happiness and harmony , it's about not feeling the need to get fine jewelry , cars , boats , houses , or going out for romantic dinner's that cost more then the couch you sit on at home to eat pizza.


Love is about accepting one's flaws and mistake's and being able to forgive .Love is about alot of thing's , but only love grown from true faith in the belief of love can bring everything I have listed.





Unfortunetly in today's society couple's never reach this level of love , you';ve hit the 4 year mark , your wife has already cheated on you and your feeling like you missed out . Divorce her and go sow some seeds .
Dude, you don't love your wife .. Get a real life and do them all. When you are dyein of some cootie thing .. don't expect any of them to be there for you . Being married young is just STUPID Dude .Its no excuse for other hotties. Leave the old woman.. Stop making yourself look like a mthfcker. and become ROMEO like me ! You give us good guys a bad rep . Love them all. When ya balls fall and ya can't keep it up anymore find yourself that mamma that can cook...Die fat and happy with a smile on your face!