Me and my husband met 4 1/2 years ago on the job. We instantly fell in love, moved in together, got pregnant, got married, bought a house, and a new car all within one year. , It was my second child and his 3rd. Chloe (my daughter) totally destroyed my shape, and yes it did give me terrible insecurites, but I never had to deal with them cause I FELT the love was so geniune between us. He even gained weight with me while I was pregnant. Infidelity was never thought of, and we never had a problem with people on the job interfering with our circle. However, he's always had a lust for women. He's always talked about fantasies in bed, which was a turn on for both of us, but eventually he was encouraging and wanting more and more a 3-way. I didn't mind the talk, but I didn't want it to be a reality for obvious reaasons. But I felt that he had such a desire for that, that if I didn't be cool with it, he would eventually get it elsewhere. So I convinced myself to be super cool with it. That was were I feel I went wrong. I think overall I was so deep in love with him so fast I just wanted to give him everything he ever wanted, but by doing that, I cheated myself out of being respected and layed down for him. Fast forwarding things a bit, we did wind up having a 3 way with a very unattractive women, after that, he was all on my space, openly flirting with girls, trying to get a new recruit to do it again. I guess he was half unfulfilled cause it wasn't what he had in mindbut it deeply bothered me to see this I guess in my mind I was like well it's ok if I pick the girl and I'm in control. That was not true. We've even had open enough conversations/arguments where he's said ';why can't men have more than 1 wife? or ';Why can't we be married with a girlfriend we can kick it with?'; In addition to that, he's always looking at women on the internet and in public (but he's not disrespectful with it in public) but I would be looking with him.
Now everything bothers me. I finally told him 2 weeks ago that, I was trying to grow spirtually and confess my true feelings about everything. He said that was all fine and that he wouldn't do it anymore. I told him I think he has an addiction to it. But he told me no, I love you first and foremost, I put no one before you, and I'm much stronger than the devil The day after we had this deep convo, I found out he contacted his EX girlfriend on my space and tried to recruit her for a 3-way with us!! Even she was taken back! But we managed to get through it, he even has been encouraged to grow his reltionship with the Lord. Things have and had been great this past 2 weeks, however, he blocked his my space page (which is understandable) but he also hasn't invited me on his page either, which leads me to believe he's hiding again, and I told him this. He really hasn't given me a clear answer on why he hasn't invited me over to his new page yet either. But I've painted on a smile, and continued to love him anyway. He has female co-worker (she's cool with me but we're not the that close) that sits across from him. She is an attractive women, and he has told me he would be interested in her for ';US';, anyway she's pregnant by her boyfriend but she's not oblivious to the way we've thought about her in the past. Any how, a couple weeks ago, he told me he's been encouraging more people to exercise and he told me he told her when she has her baby she could work out with us. I didn't like it really, but I didn't say anything. Then yesterday she went to lunch with us (his invite) and ';after the fact'; he told me he had went with her to go move her car cause he was bored. That was it, I asked him why did he need to go with her, you are not responsible for her, she has a man. He was like I'm sorry I told you and I didn't think it would be a problem. We work at large company, were people have always looked for the next rumor. Everybody knows where together here, why would even want to give someone the impression that you could be fooling around? Not that I care about the people, I just don't want to be played. PLUS, let the shoe have been on the other foot, all heck would have broke loose. He thinks I'm so psyched out crazy, but really it's that I see where their friendly relationship is going, and just don't think it's possible that that could ever happen. On top of all this, I'm taking care of all the bills in the home because of his Child Support and garnishments, putting food on the table everything. He pays half the mortgage and that's it. I don't get no financial support from him. The few dollars he gets he gives me. I never cared about his financial shortcomings or any of his other flaws, until now.
In the end..
I feel like now you don't whole heartedly respect me first as much as I respect him first. And all the I've sacrificed for this relationship is a waste. I'm realizing he has unreasonable expectations of what a wife should be. Not too many women would love him and accept the burden of carrying a whole household financially, and take care of all business matters too(He lets me face bill collectors alone too). At this point I'm like what am I staying with him for? Love? Pity? Is this my companion and best friend or another ***** pimping and playing a good women? How much more of this can we both go through. I just want us both to be happy..I feel unwanted in my marriage, what should I do?
First of all, thanks for sharing your story. It was quite interesting and to read but at the same time complicated.
After reading the entire passage, I feel that you have answered the problem that you are having on your own.
You probably just needed to vent.
First of all, you said that you know you made a mistake by letting him feel that a 3some would be okay, and then even engaged in one.
You are way too good of a woman for him and you of all people know it.
As a woman, sometimes we love our men so much that we loose ourselves loving them and wanting our family to be together.
I feel that at this time, that you have given it our all, and sometimes we have to wash our hands with a situation.
Fairytales don't always have a happy ending. And that is okay.
You seem to be a strong woman and you will bounce back from this, believe me. But, you will never know if you don't let go.
I recently ended a 5-year relationship because of my boyfriend cheating on me. It was hard because we had a child between the two of us and then I had 2 additional children.
I have since met a wonderful man, that loves me and my children.
At times you feel you know happiness, but I feel that I have embarked on a entire new level of happiness that I would have never experienced, if I would not have let the old stuff go.
He seems that he has some real issues to deal with, with himself.
I don't feel that you will ever be able to do enough for him sexually and he be satisfied.
You are his wife, and if you alone is not enough, then he is not the one for you.
Just learn from the mistake that you made in this relationship and move forward with your life for yourself and for your precious children.
I wish you all the best in whatever decision or road you choose to take.I feel unwanted in my marriage, what should I do?
Sweetie, this exact scenario happened to my best friend. After all was said and done they are no longer together. Now it would be different if this was what you wanted but you convinced yourself to do it to make him happy. The only peoples happiness I place before my own is my children. I was dragged around for too many years by too many people who wanted to manipulate me. It is really not worth it. You sacrificed you beliefs for him. Of course he expects more. When he sees he doesn't get that he will look for it himself without your approval. I don't feel it is correct for him to bring this to the workplace. I sympathize with you having those people probably talk behind your back. People at work are always looking for good juicy gossip. He should respect you always and others will do the same. It always comes down to you. How low are you willing to be with someone you believe to be undeserving?
I'm going to comment mainly on your last paragraph:
';Not too many women would love him and accept the burden of carrying a whole household financially, and take care of all business matters too(He lets me face bill collectors alone too).'; -- What ELSE does he make you do alone? This is not healthy. A Marriage is a union of 2 people who should be SHARING everything. Not facing things alone. That is very coward-like for him to let you go through it alone.
';I just want us both to be happy.'; -- What you have to realize is that YOU have to focus on yourself and YOU have to be happy with YOU before you're happy with someone else. he is not making you happy.
You're feeling insecure, betrayed, lied to, among other things. I KNOW that feeling you have in the pit of your stomach where you're wondering what else is going on. Especially with the MySpace page and how he won't invite you to it. Um, HELLO, you're his wife! Not only should you be invited to his page, you should be his #1 friend!
I know how it feels to want something to work. I know how it feels to have history with someone and you pray and pray that things will just get better and ';like they used to be';.
The reality is, is that sometimes life doesn't work out like that.
You have to think of yourself and your kids. This man you are married to is making you do things that you THINK you're in control of. News flash -- you're not in control. HE is. A man who truely loves you would never make you do things you're not 100% comfortable with. A man who truely loves you would never make you face things alone.
I think you know deep down what you need to do, and I know you're looking for the opinions of everyone on Yahoo Answers, but ultimately it's going to be YOU who needs to make the next move and let this guy go. You deserve someone who won't make you feel like this.
Remember -- he's not the same person you first fell in love with. He's manipulated you and has not taken care of you.
He's not a man.
Wow that was long. What to say? Your husband is a real asshole! He is addicted to 3way sex and has no respect for your feelings. He's selfish and doesn't care about you being hurt. There is no way I would ever be with a man like that. Take your daughter and leave. If he really cares and loves you he will figure out a way to get you back. Best luck to you.
You say you just want us to be happy. Remember, it is ';us'; you want to made happy, not just him.
You were against threesome in the first place, you went for it anyway. (That was your mistake number one.)
I mean, I don't care what you guys do behind that closed doors, but if you are not true about your feelings, you are not going to be happy. (your husband is probably happy, but you certainly won't be) Remember, lie to other people is easy, lie to yourself is hard.
You say you become out of shape after the second kid, and from your descriptions of other women, (very unattractive woman, attractive woman), I can see you are a little obsessed with look. Well, stop it. It is not worth it. Start eating healthy, exercise more if your weight bother you. I am sure once your weight is under control, you would feel much much better about yourself. and maybe you will be more confident about yourself.
You are in a tough situation, I don't think I have a solution. Honestly, I don't even think therapy would help.
He doesn't sound like a wonderful man, and I think it is time to stop dreaming one day he can change.
Has writing this all out helped you feel better or see things a bit clearer? No one on here can tell you what to do. Only you have the responsibility and ability of that decision. But perhaps writing it out has given a purging effect and can help you make the decisions you will have to make. I wish you the best of luck in these endeavors.
Wow! Really long story. Yes I think he does not respect you. I think the only way to get his attention now is with you filing divorce paper work. When he is served the divorce papers he will have a sudden change of heart. He will come to you asking for your forgiveness. At this point you will have the power to state your desires and feelings. He will have two options, one to accept or the other, to leave. Good luck.
Wow. This is strange. This requires immediate Family Therapy, not Yahoo. Or Divorce Court. Man, how sorry I am for your daughter to be caught in between this immature mess.
Wow... I met my husband like 5 years ago, and things happened for us pretty much the same way they happened to you. We met, dated, fell in love, got preg, then married. We had also talked about a 3-way but I would never deep down inside EVER allow that. Even though, at times I thought it would be fun... maybe if I were dating someone, but for sure not married. But like you said, it was fun to talk/think about. But I couldnt bare watching my husband messing around with another girl even if I was involved. I do think that was a huge mistake. He may feel that you two have more of an open relationship. (like you, I am more spiritual now) but I would advise you to seriously sit down and talk to him. and tell him no more 3-way. good luck with everything.
Wow...............All within one yr. First of all you made your mistake by moving to damn fast. You knew he always had a lust for other women, big mistake right there. The 3-some a no-no. I'm not going to get into a long story, b/c yours is long enough, lmao.....I feel bad for Chloe though, but she'll be ok, once you get your life together. Time for a DIVORCE
Whether you are broken hearted from the loss of a loved one, marriage, family, an ex lover....No matter what you situation, now matter how down you may feel right now....I will make a promise to you all....no matter where you are in the world...
THINGS WILL GET BETTER......if you allow them to.
I added the ';if you allow them to because alot of us assume time is the answer....I agree to a certain extent but I believe the truth lies in allowing yourself to heal.
One thing we know that never changes is that time never stops. Time always moves forward....we can't stop it.....like death...it is certain.
Years ago, I was hurt like so many of you out there. I couldn't do anything without letting the sadness overtake me. I, without me knowing, put my happiness on someone else. If I couldn't have them, I couldn't be happy. For those out there that have this type of mentality, you have my sympathy. I could not have been more wrong. I spent months crying, obsessing about my situation, my life without her, and why this was happening to me.
Plain and simple, I had a lesson to learn....a very hard lesson. It wasn't that I was at my lowest point that I realized that it wasn't punishment from God...or whatever you believe....it was something that ';Life'; was teaching me. Ask any elderly person out there what ';life'; lessons that have learned in there time here on earth and I can almost guarantee they can go on and on...the reasoning is because the HAD to learn.
When I was a child, I tried to put my hand on the eye of a stove when it was turned on....it was hot but my mother pulled my hand back before I could do so....what did I learn from it?
Two things
1. The eye of a stove can be very hot and I could get burned....
2. Listen to other people that are more experienced...they have lessons to teach.
I know you may be hurting right now. I cried many nights into a pillow as a 34 year old man because I ';couldn't live with out her';. I cried in the shower....I cried at work...I cried in the cry when a certain song would play because I would think of my past with her...
Been there ...done that. I am living proof ladies and gentlemen that if you stop and DO YOUR BEST to look at the lesson rather than the problem that you will begin to learn...
Am I insinuating you have done something wrong or is the reason why you are in your current situation because of something YOU did?
NOT AT ALL...not even close.
What I have come to realize in my short time on this earth, that if I die tomorrow, ....that no one...BUT NO ONE can prevent me from loving me.
Is this selfish to say? No. I disagree with anyone that would challenge me. When I look in the mirror, I see me. I do not see anyone else BUT me. I know what I am thinking at all times. I know my thoughts, I know MY dreams, I know what I like, I know what I don't like, I know what makes me happy, I know everything about me..without guessing nor ***uming anything.
No one is responsible for my happiness BUT ME. What does this mean? It mean I love the people that come in and out of my life and appreciate each one individually and the lessons they teach me. There are so many wonderful things in the world we DON'T appreciate because we put too much emphasis on the very thing we ***ume is responsible for our complete happiness and when it is gone.........we become ';lost';.
When do we appreciate things the most? Sadly, most of us at one time or another tend to appreciate it only after it is gone....or we can't have it anymore. People sadly get taken for granted every day. I have learned to appreciate everything about me and my life circumstances. I have such positive energy inside and out that it radiates in all I do.
I learned to pick myself up and move on. Was it hard....Absolutely! The things in life that we think are the most difficult, tend to be the very things when we overcome it, no matter if it is a problem in our lives or maybe a math problem on the blackboard, that make us the proudest.
Why is this? I will tell you....
When we don't believe we can do something....and we end up doing it and doing well...we are in disbelief and shock because we actually took the time to provide a solution for ourselves. No one lives our lives but us...the individual.
We all have hopes and dreams.....we all have individual goals we may have had for years....before your current situation ever occurred. How many time I have heard the same thing over and over...
';I wish I had never met %26lt;fill in the blank%26gt;';.
Why? Why is it that when negative things occur, that we always look at the negative instead of the positive. Looking back on life, I have said this silly statement before. I am guilty as charged but I have learned to be a better person for it.
What have I learned? I have learned that being negative only brings more negativity. Some call it the ';Law of attraction';...I call it common sense.
We all have choices....some are easier to make than others. I am not by any means trying to give an overall solution....but providing ';food for thought';. We make poor choices, have done stupid things....say hurtful things we didn't mean....we have learn to hate...instead of being the better person. As a chlid, we learned that lying COULD get you out of trouble....and the truth can be so difficult to tell sometimes not only for us...but for those it involves.
You can be happy....no matter how down you are...no matter how lonely...no matter how defeated you may feel....YOU CAN DO ANYTHING if you allow yourself to.
If someone doesn't love you.......I am sorry....NOT for you...BUT FOR THEM......
Read that again...
If someone doesn't love you.......I am sorry....NOT for you...BUT FOR THEM......
You are a treasure.....you are a gift that is to be appreciated until we take our last breath. You can make a difference in your own life NOT to worry about what someone else my say or ***ume about you.
NO ONE but NO ONE..knows you best.....THAN YOU! Self love can be the most difficult lesson you can learn. We tend to dream of that ';someone'; that will come along and just understand how we work and feel. Some call this our soul mate. Do I believe in soul mates....? Not really....I believe in me 100%. I have too much love to give for free to the people that SHOW ME LOVE.
Actions speak louder than words.....don't let words stand in your way. Don't ever let ANYONE tell you that you can't do anything...
You can do anything....no matter what it is...
All you have to do is believe in yourself. If you have made mistakes in your life up to this point....don't push blame....take responsibility for ONLY the things you need to and learn from it...move on and teach those who will be in your situation possibly down the road.
Don't be afraid....fear can only hold you back. Let it go...let go of the ';what if's...'; Go with what you know is a fact....not what you ***ume or wish....
To each and everyone of you...I want you to know something...
No matter who you are....no matter where you are...no matter how down and out you may feel....
there is hope...there is forgiveness....there is a lesson...and there is a long, and happy life waiting for you on the otherside of your sadness.
Forgive yourself of past mistakes and move on.....love yourself and let yoru confidence SHINE bright. Radiate what you have learned and SMILE again! You can do it....I am living proof that you can do it.
All it takes is a simple decision to let go of sadness and past hurt...
You can do it....Ya wanna know why? You may be siiting there reading this post doubting every word I say....but listen carefully
I mean this with all I am ....
I believe in you.....and all that you are.
Your Friend,
SuperDave71
first even for him wanting a 3 way with you involved is WRONG it might be ok ONCE to see what it is like but never to have it mentioned again unless you both want more than that
second if you can do it by yourself why not do it by yourself we all have the same rigth to love and to be loved as everyone else out there go find that someone else
I am not sure we had enough information to trully digest this whole problem. Oh wait yes we did right at the begining when you said you guys were opening your marriage to others. He does not respect you at all. I know you think I am being harsh but its the truth. You dont respect yourself. If you wanted an open relationship you got it quit complaining if you no longer want that its time to find a different guy you changed he didnt. what if he was the one out of shape and you were still drop dead sexy how would you handle this.
Friday, August 20, 2010
Am i going to get any custody in court on tues for my two years old?
on friday i went down to court and tried to file an emergency custody order i finished all my paper work at 11 45 am they then contacted her and she went down to the courthouse and filed a restraining order so now i have to stay with my mom till tuesday they made me wait in court until 5pm and she got the restraining order at 2 45 pm but heres the deal she goes to a meth clinic every day and eats like 6-8 klonipins and xanex at a time practically every few hours and she has been seeing a gentlemen friend that she knows i know about she drinks and nods off all the time while the 2 and 8yr old are awake she also had her gentleman friend sleep over the other night while the kids were home everything in that apartment is mine i pay all the rent etc we are not married she wont return my engagement ring to me for breaking that promise i believe her infidelity entitles me to the ring back but my major concern is my daughter what can i do they laughed at me friday and wouldnt listen to a word i said. i need a lawyer i might have one but im not sure what is gunna happen i want to be in my daughters life i love that child more than anything in this world. o i also know that she was dismissed from her primary care physicians practice for dirty urines. i have proof via text message that she is seeing this guy in front of my face how do i get custody and her out of my life she wont go she thinks that i should live with her while she goes out and sees guys and i have to stay in and watch the kids everyday and pay for all the rent and bills what do i do please im stressing out cause in mass its tuff but she is not fit to take care of herself let alone the kids. will the court grant her everything even though i paid to file the order and will they leave me with out any rights to my daughter is this a losing battleAm i going to get any custody in court on tues for my two years old?
Darling, you do not own her.She is free to see other men as she pleases so don't even try to use that in court or else you will be laughed at (take this as a good thing, now you don't have to pay her spousal support!)
Now, if she does test dirty, that will be your winning ticket right there.Drug addicts don't deserve to care of children unless they are clean.They will place the kids with you.However, they will not sign away her rights.You have to face that she is there mother and she will never be out of your life.
As far as how everything will play out, you will just have to see what the courts say about it.they are the ones to determine it.I would also give her a 30 day notice to move out of the house.good luck and hope all goes well for you.Am i going to get any custody in court on tues for my two years old?
The first issue when you give someone and engagement ring you gave it to them and it is now their ring. It's nice when they give it back but they are under no obligation and you need to let that go.
Secondly, it does not matter if you have paid the bills and the rent so let that go too.
Thirdly, who cares if she had a guy sleep over that does not in any way impact custody or her right to keep her kids.
Fourthly, You have a text message not medical records and you have no right to her medical records so you have to let that go too.
Fifth point, the fact that she goes to a meth clinic every day just shows that she had a problem and has taken steps to get clean so that doesn't help your case either.
Finally, if she had enough proof to get a restraining order or order of protection that doesn't look good for you. Your best hope is getting them to believe you think the kids are not safe due to the fact she is using other medications without a prescription OR that she is not using them as prescribed and the kids are not safe. IF they can get a CPS investigation on those grounds and she has to have random drug screenings, if she is not clean she will fail and you may have a chance of getting your kid then. Who is the father of the 8 yr old?? If he gets involved for them same reason and fights for custody at the same time you may have a better shot. However, make sure she really deserves to lose her kid because kids need their moms especially when they are little so if this is more about your anger or hurt pride and she really isn't putting your kid in danger then check yourself and do the right thing.
Make anonymous tip off to social services about her not taking care of her children. The more reports they get they will look into it more.
There are pro-bono lawyers that each state can provide for you.
A relative of mine just got over a dirty divorce over a child. The best thing you can do is not to show anger at the other parent. Rather show your love for your child for their rest of their life. When the child comes over I don't express any kind of anger toward the other parent. I want to show my nephew or neice that they are loved and welcomed here. Kids pick up things, and that's not really what you want your child(ren) to feel about you or the other parent.
You shouldn't be treated like that...even if she thinks that you and her should be together just so she can see another guy is not right...you should kick her out... you pay all the bills and rent...you own the place...Hope I helped!
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Darling, you do not own her.She is free to see other men as she pleases so don't even try to use that in court or else you will be laughed at (take this as a good thing, now you don't have to pay her spousal support!)
Now, if she does test dirty, that will be your winning ticket right there.Drug addicts don't deserve to care of children unless they are clean.They will place the kids with you.However, they will not sign away her rights.You have to face that she is there mother and she will never be out of your life.
As far as how everything will play out, you will just have to see what the courts say about it.they are the ones to determine it.I would also give her a 30 day notice to move out of the house.good luck and hope all goes well for you.Am i going to get any custody in court on tues for my two years old?
The first issue when you give someone and engagement ring you gave it to them and it is now their ring. It's nice when they give it back but they are under no obligation and you need to let that go.
Secondly, it does not matter if you have paid the bills and the rent so let that go too.
Thirdly, who cares if she had a guy sleep over that does not in any way impact custody or her right to keep her kids.
Fourthly, You have a text message not medical records and you have no right to her medical records so you have to let that go too.
Fifth point, the fact that she goes to a meth clinic every day just shows that she had a problem and has taken steps to get clean so that doesn't help your case either.
Finally, if she had enough proof to get a restraining order or order of protection that doesn't look good for you. Your best hope is getting them to believe you think the kids are not safe due to the fact she is using other medications without a prescription OR that she is not using them as prescribed and the kids are not safe. IF they can get a CPS investigation on those grounds and she has to have random drug screenings, if she is not clean she will fail and you may have a chance of getting your kid then. Who is the father of the 8 yr old?? If he gets involved for them same reason and fights for custody at the same time you may have a better shot. However, make sure she really deserves to lose her kid because kids need their moms especially when they are little so if this is more about your anger or hurt pride and she really isn't putting your kid in danger then check yourself and do the right thing.
Make anonymous tip off to social services about her not taking care of her children. The more reports they get they will look into it more.
There are pro-bono lawyers that each state can provide for you.
A relative of mine just got over a dirty divorce over a child. The best thing you can do is not to show anger at the other parent. Rather show your love for your child for their rest of their life. When the child comes over I don't express any kind of anger toward the other parent. I want to show my nephew or neice that they are loved and welcomed here. Kids pick up things, and that's not really what you want your child(ren) to feel about you or the other parent.
You shouldn't be treated like that...even if she thinks that you and her should be together just so she can see another guy is not right...you should kick her out... you pay all the bills and rent...you own the place...Hope I helped!
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Mother in law advice?
ok I need help, I have a mother in law who used to be my best friend/ aside from my hubby. She was awesome. Long story short, she did a lot of horrible things, ended up divorcing my f.i.l and blaming everything on him and ';his infidelity'; when come to find out it was actually the other way around. It has really hurt a lot of people but she is now remarried to a man nobody really cares for, she is sneaky and manipulative, and blames others for her doing. I havn't spoken to her in almost a year. We have moved recently and have a one year old little boy now, the problem is that we live next door to the grandparents, (her parents) and they keep trying to force us to love/ like her. They don't know what she's done and we don't want to upset them by telling them, (they are very stuck in their was and probably wouldn't believe us anyhow). The big problem is now she is coming up for a visit for over a week and will know if I am home or not obviously. I can't hide, but I can hardly stand to be around her and her ';husband'; who by the way picked up my five month old BY THE WRIST to move him!!! He should not be around children, he's a careless clumsy oaff around them. I don't know what to do. OH! and to top it all off, another soon to be sister in law is also coming and my darling mother n law told her that I (in reality she) said all of these nasty things about her, which were comments that I might have agreed with, but that originated out of her mouth!!! How do I deal with my brother in law, his soon to be wife, (who probably hate me) and my ';darling sweet innocent'; mother in law?????Mother in law advice?
First of all - it's okay to feel like you do. You've been betrayed. Acknowledge what you're feeling.
That being said, this isn't just a friend you can sweep to the side. This is the grandmother to your child, the mother to your husband.
What do you do? You put on the big girl pants because your MIL obviously can't. You put on the happy face for that one week and be a part of the family. It's only one week. By no means are you required to spend all day, every day with them. If you're at home and they are at you husband's grandparents' house, it's okay. You have a child who needs to nap.
Also, talk to your husband about limits. My grandfather-in-law tried to carry my 2-month old around the house when he could barely walk himself. I didn't feel comfortable just ripping the baby out of his arms, so I was able to hold the baby WITH him. Other times my husband would step in and take control.
Remember this is his family.
Now as for your brother-in-law and his soon-to-be-wife, prove her lies wrong!! Be your sweet self. Show them a good time! Just because your MIL is bitter doesn't mean you have to be. Don't fall into her trap!Mother in law advice?
I would say c u n t punch your mother in law and kick them to the curb.
U don't deal with them at all! Are you renting from the grandparent in laws? Either way, just act as if they aren't there. If they knock or call, don't answer! However if you bump into them outside and they try to be nice to you then be cordial. If the mom and brother want to see your child as long as they are respectable I would let them. However if the brothers wife has an attitude, realize you don't owe her anything. You can tell her that you didn't start the drama or tell the lies and since she couldn't come to you as an adult and talk it over she is not welcome in your home. I would also make it clear that the oaf is not welcome in my house period because you don't want him around your child. You and your husband don't owe anybody anything, their indiscretions are not your problem and I wouldn't let it burden me! After all you have a good marriage and a beautiful son who needs anything else!
Good Luck!
First of all - it's okay to feel like you do. You've been betrayed. Acknowledge what you're feeling.
That being said, this isn't just a friend you can sweep to the side. This is the grandmother to your child, the mother to your husband.
What do you do? You put on the big girl pants because your MIL obviously can't. You put on the happy face for that one week and be a part of the family. It's only one week. By no means are you required to spend all day, every day with them. If you're at home and they are at you husband's grandparents' house, it's okay. You have a child who needs to nap.
Also, talk to your husband about limits. My grandfather-in-law tried to carry my 2-month old around the house when he could barely walk himself. I didn't feel comfortable just ripping the baby out of his arms, so I was able to hold the baby WITH him. Other times my husband would step in and take control.
Remember this is his family.
Now as for your brother-in-law and his soon-to-be-wife, prove her lies wrong!! Be your sweet self. Show them a good time! Just because your MIL is bitter doesn't mean you have to be. Don't fall into her trap!Mother in law advice?
I would say c u n t punch your mother in law and kick them to the curb.
U don't deal with them at all! Are you renting from the grandparent in laws? Either way, just act as if they aren't there. If they knock or call, don't answer! However if you bump into them outside and they try to be nice to you then be cordial. If the mom and brother want to see your child as long as they are respectable I would let them. However if the brothers wife has an attitude, realize you don't owe her anything. You can tell her that you didn't start the drama or tell the lies and since she couldn't come to you as an adult and talk it over she is not welcome in your home. I would also make it clear that the oaf is not welcome in my house period because you don't want him around your child. You and your husband don't owe anybody anything, their indiscretions are not your problem and I wouldn't let it burden me! After all you have a good marriage and a beautiful son who needs anything else!
Good Luck!
Question for Christian Wives please...sorry a bit long?
I have recently learned of my husbands infidelity. I am absolutely heartbroken of course. What makes things worse is that things were good before all this. We both really love each other and he feels like the biggest failure (putting it mildly) as a man ever. He doesn't want to recommit to me because he doesn't trust himself not to do it again, because he failed on his vows the first time and never ever thought he would.
I would forgive him.... except that he hasn't asked for it. He says he doesn't deserve it. Whats MORE is that he hasn't yet cut off communication with this other woman! (they were friends from a long time ago, long before I even knew my husband).. so he`s trying to deal with the loss of that friendship also. 2 days ago, I left him (distanced myself physically but still love him) because I refused to be with him when he still communicates with her. He was crushed and shocked....... but yet STILL hasn`t ceased communication (although he says he will do the right thing).
So now my question is..... has anyone else ever been in a similar situation and how did you handle it? I am trying to be as loving as possible, but its hard when you feel your the only one trying.Question for Christian Wives please...sorry a bit long?
I'm not a Christian Wife, but I still have an answer for you.
Times up for games and smoke tricks; talk to him directly, state your concerns and be honest. Drop the formalities, if he has messed up beyond repair tell him. If he hasn't, ask him if he is sorry for what he has done and find out what he'll do to avoid this mistake in the future.
Life isn't a fairy tale; if you don't ask, he won't tell.Question for Christian Wives please...sorry a bit long?
it is beautiful that you have been able to forgive him and that will help you to be Focus on what you want to do to save your marriage. The first thing is that you keep on talking to God about what is happening He is faithful enough to sort it out. It is a bit difficult but keep on been patience, no nagging, no argument keep on been nice and good and take good care of you self and kid. Take good care of you health God will put an end to the strange woman
He doesn't actually want your forgiveness because he wants to have his cake and eat it too! This way you are the one doing the leaving so it is now both your faults.Once a cheater always a cheater, christian or not! Good luck with it because it sounds like you're the one doing all the work and that will get old very soon.
I divorced my lying cheating Baptist Republican fake christian narcissistic (ex) husband. Even his own lawyer was disgusted by his lies. But that's just me. After 13 years I couldn't take his phoney life any longer. I was a pawn in his ';I'm a good guy'; game.
He sounds like he is actually getting you to feel sorry for him. Wow. See how that ';good guy'; stuff works?
Are you naive? Once a cheater always a cheater! Trying to deal with loss of a friendship... please- if he were my husband he'd be dealing with loss of something else, ala Lorena Bobbit! ;)
you are still with him when he did this to you and isnt even cutting off communication with this other women? divorce him bcuz even HE knows he will cheat again. have a backbone and leave him bcuz he will continue to hurt you the more u let it go on
I have been where you are.
I would suggest that you read the book by Dr. James Dobson ';Love Must Be Tough';
I suggest that you get yourself into counselling ASAP
get him nudered
Tell Tiger its over and move on
I've never been in that situation, but my opinion is to leave him.
First of all you have the right to be angry. You sound like you are begging for him to stay with you. Why would you want that if he is telling you he will cheat again. You are setting yourself up for a world of hurt. He hasn't cut things off with this other woman because he doesn't want to!
I am sure he loves you with everything he has but he can't have it both ways. Set the grounds rules and then cut off contact with him. He will do what he wants in the end so don't wait around crying your heart out.
I haven't been in this situation before, but just wanted to tell you that I just said a heart-felt prayer on your behalf that your husband find his way back to you. I prayed that He help guides your husband back to you %26amp; that he realizes that he wants to be with you %26amp; forgets about that other gal. I've been told that I can pray for anyone I want, even if I've never met that person, so that's just what I did.
My heart goes out to you during this difficult time. I pray that he comes to his senses %26amp; realizes that he needs to be with you. Take care. Roz
he has violated your marriage vows. divorce him and later you will meet a nice Christian man that will give you the love you deserve. If you look in the Bible Abraham had a mistress that Sarah had to tolerate and as soon as she had Issac, she threw Hagar out and reclaimed her husband. Abraham was a womanizer anyway. It is strange that old men's trousers are named out of an ancient biblical mistress. Hagar trousers. Send your husband's mistress an old pair of hagar trousers and tell her they are named in her honor. To be honest I am a Christian too and if I were in your situation I would throw a basket of your husbands dirty underwear and toss them in her face. the rest of his clothes can go to the Salvation Army, a good Christian organization!
Honey, he's told you he doesn't trust himself, AND he's still keeping in touch w/this person. You have every rite to distance yourself from him. He did you wrong %26amp; I would not be a bit surprised if he didn't do it again. Especially since he's still in touch w/her. I feel he too well knows this %26amp; this is why he doesn't trust himself. As long as they are continuing to communicate w/one another I don't feel you have a fair chance of saving your marriage. You do not have to be a ';door mat'; he's going to do nothing but wipe his feet on you so to speak. IF you could, I'd cut off all communication w/him as long as he has her upfront %26amp; in the picture. You've offered him forgiveness, he can't/won't even accept that from you. He knows in his heart he's just going to keep hurting you %26amp; continue doing the SAME things he's already done to you. I DO NOT feel the Lord would want you to keep hanging on to someone who is going to keep committing adultery against you, which is what he's doing against you. He HAS broken one of the ten commandments. From the sounds of it, he still may do it again. You said you would forgive him, BUT in all honesty could you still be able to trust him again! I think not %26amp; rite fully so. You deserve far better than this, I'd pray about it %26amp; put it in God's Hands. I feel he's already given you a ';sign';of what to do about this situation. IF he can't trust himself, then how can you fully trust him again. I believe things happen for reasons regardless if we know what they are or don't. I walked in your shoes before in my past. I KNOW how it feels to be cheated on time %26amp; time again. I just kept hanging in hoping things would change but they didn't, For 12 long yrs. I waited for a change %26amp; did NOT get it. I finally got to the point where I could not hang in any longer, I made the decision to let go. When I did, I felt like a ton of bricks rolled off my shoulders, I was finally FREE of ALL of it. FREE to go forward %26amp; start a new begging for myself %26amp; my life. You no doubt have just not met the rite person for you, but there IS a rite person out there for you. Someone who WILL love you as you deserve to be loved, someone who WILL be true to you. THIS IS what you deserve. Do NOt feel guilty for being true to yourself, for sticking up for yourself. I would give him the choice of either you or her. IF he chooses her OR says he cannot commit to you, then I would consider leaving him %26amp; having a chance of happiness for YOU...I DO wish you the best...:)
you are not the only one. Once a woman enticed my husband. The way I see it Men Have two brains and do not always use there best judgment when thinking with one of them. Temptation is a hard thing to beat. My husband came home crying, and asked for forgiveness even though the little episode ended abruptly. He could not continue through, because he could not get his mind off of me. I hate to say this but men are vulnerable. They will never understand a woman, even if they try to. Men can not handle temptation very well. Most men do not recognize when a woman is flirting with them or just being nice. It sounds to me though that this woman was a woman of his past, possibly one that he would of liked to have a future with before you came along. I think this woman knew this and took advantage of the situation even though she knew he was married. I would be angry with the other women for destroying what you two had. I am sure she knew he was married but did not care or consider anyone else's feelings but her own. She sounds like a very self centered woman, and very selfish. Your husband still communicates with her so obviously he is not ready to break all ties with her. If he truly loves you; then you should be the most important thing in his life. He should dump this woman like a hot potato, for coming in between his marriage. You should not expect him to to ask for forgiveness. Some men are truly sorry but do not know how to say it. He says he does not want to recommit because he does not trust himself. This tells me he obviously still loves and cares for this women. You left him and he was shocked because he did think you would ever leave. You are doing the right thing if he is not willing to drop his other friend; unless you are willing to deal with his infidelity as a part of your life. I know you love him dearly and it is very hard right now, but you need to stick to your guns know matter how hard it hurts. He needs to break all ties with this other woman first; until he can do this, you will never be happily married and be able to work through this. I hope for your; that you will be able to get through this trying time and be able to build your marriage back. Just remember it takes two to work things out, and you can't always have your cake and eat it to. God bless and I will keep you in my prayers.
this is what happened to me, i am a Christian, i found out earlier this year he had an affair last year, he is in the mideast then before he came home for Thanksgiving he saw her again.
he works security in the mideast, he said he never will again then i saw her email again and he left a c.d. here w/pics of her on it.
i am trying to forgive but everybody thinks i'm crazy.
he said i could never never forgive him its over, but he kept trying to kiss and hug me,
the last thing i want is him touching me, but he wont really communicate with me verbally.
now he's back working there, he says he's not in touch w/her but he's a compulsive liar.
i am committed to my church, and i pray more lately. that's what i do.
i KNOW God will work things out for my good. just keep the faith, God is on your side. i was up crying last night but i know Jesus is with me, i feel sorry for their souls.
I went through something similar 3 or 4 years ago with my husband. The only difference is that his ';affair'; was more of an emotional thing and he left me (not for her but DID spent time with her while he was gone). I didn't know for 6 months that they were keeping in contact through myspace. It crushed me...twice over. In the end it came down to understanding WHY everything happened. We have a wonderful relationship now but he wanted forgivness for leaving me right from the start. A year after coming home he was over the road (driving semi's) and had hours to think. He called me one day at 2 in the morning crying. He told me how sorry he was for breaking my heart and told me he would never leave me again. Obviously in our relationship the fact that he left me was the big issue. His ';affair'; was not a true affair but more or less a double blow after the fact. Either way...for a relationship to move on he must be truly sorry and truly willing to re-commit himself to the relationship. Obviously your husband is not ready for this. That doesn't mean he never will be but understand that he may not. Go about your life in the way that is best for you and see where it takes you from there.
I would forgive him.... except that he hasn't asked for it. He says he doesn't deserve it. Whats MORE is that he hasn't yet cut off communication with this other woman! (they were friends from a long time ago, long before I even knew my husband).. so he`s trying to deal with the loss of that friendship also. 2 days ago, I left him (distanced myself physically but still love him) because I refused to be with him when he still communicates with her. He was crushed and shocked....... but yet STILL hasn`t ceased communication (although he says he will do the right thing).
So now my question is..... has anyone else ever been in a similar situation and how did you handle it? I am trying to be as loving as possible, but its hard when you feel your the only one trying.Question for Christian Wives please...sorry a bit long?
I'm not a Christian Wife, but I still have an answer for you.
Times up for games and smoke tricks; talk to him directly, state your concerns and be honest. Drop the formalities, if he has messed up beyond repair tell him. If he hasn't, ask him if he is sorry for what he has done and find out what he'll do to avoid this mistake in the future.
Life isn't a fairy tale; if you don't ask, he won't tell.Question for Christian Wives please...sorry a bit long?
it is beautiful that you have been able to forgive him and that will help you to be Focus on what you want to do to save your marriage. The first thing is that you keep on talking to God about what is happening He is faithful enough to sort it out. It is a bit difficult but keep on been patience, no nagging, no argument keep on been nice and good and take good care of you self and kid. Take good care of you health God will put an end to the strange woman
He doesn't actually want your forgiveness because he wants to have his cake and eat it too! This way you are the one doing the leaving so it is now both your faults.Once a cheater always a cheater, christian or not! Good luck with it because it sounds like you're the one doing all the work and that will get old very soon.
I divorced my lying cheating Baptist Republican fake christian narcissistic (ex) husband. Even his own lawyer was disgusted by his lies. But that's just me. After 13 years I couldn't take his phoney life any longer. I was a pawn in his ';I'm a good guy'; game.
He sounds like he is actually getting you to feel sorry for him. Wow. See how that ';good guy'; stuff works?
Are you naive? Once a cheater always a cheater! Trying to deal with loss of a friendship... please- if he were my husband he'd be dealing with loss of something else, ala Lorena Bobbit! ;)
you are still with him when he did this to you and isnt even cutting off communication with this other women? divorce him bcuz even HE knows he will cheat again. have a backbone and leave him bcuz he will continue to hurt you the more u let it go on
I have been where you are.
I would suggest that you read the book by Dr. James Dobson ';Love Must Be Tough';
I suggest that you get yourself into counselling ASAP
get him nudered
Tell Tiger its over and move on
I've never been in that situation, but my opinion is to leave him.
First of all you have the right to be angry. You sound like you are begging for him to stay with you. Why would you want that if he is telling you he will cheat again. You are setting yourself up for a world of hurt. He hasn't cut things off with this other woman because he doesn't want to!
I am sure he loves you with everything he has but he can't have it both ways. Set the grounds rules and then cut off contact with him. He will do what he wants in the end so don't wait around crying your heart out.
I haven't been in this situation before, but just wanted to tell you that I just said a heart-felt prayer on your behalf that your husband find his way back to you. I prayed that He help guides your husband back to you %26amp; that he realizes that he wants to be with you %26amp; forgets about that other gal. I've been told that I can pray for anyone I want, even if I've never met that person, so that's just what I did.
My heart goes out to you during this difficult time. I pray that he comes to his senses %26amp; realizes that he needs to be with you. Take care. Roz
he has violated your marriage vows. divorce him and later you will meet a nice Christian man that will give you the love you deserve. If you look in the Bible Abraham had a mistress that Sarah had to tolerate and as soon as she had Issac, she threw Hagar out and reclaimed her husband. Abraham was a womanizer anyway. It is strange that old men's trousers are named out of an ancient biblical mistress. Hagar trousers. Send your husband's mistress an old pair of hagar trousers and tell her they are named in her honor. To be honest I am a Christian too and if I were in your situation I would throw a basket of your husbands dirty underwear and toss them in her face. the rest of his clothes can go to the Salvation Army, a good Christian organization!
Honey, he's told you he doesn't trust himself, AND he's still keeping in touch w/this person. You have every rite to distance yourself from him. He did you wrong %26amp; I would not be a bit surprised if he didn't do it again. Especially since he's still in touch w/her. I feel he too well knows this %26amp; this is why he doesn't trust himself. As long as they are continuing to communicate w/one another I don't feel you have a fair chance of saving your marriage. You do not have to be a ';door mat'; he's going to do nothing but wipe his feet on you so to speak. IF you could, I'd cut off all communication w/him as long as he has her upfront %26amp; in the picture. You've offered him forgiveness, he can't/won't even accept that from you. He knows in his heart he's just going to keep hurting you %26amp; continue doing the SAME things he's already done to you. I DO NOT feel the Lord would want you to keep hanging on to someone who is going to keep committing adultery against you, which is what he's doing against you. He HAS broken one of the ten commandments. From the sounds of it, he still may do it again. You said you would forgive him, BUT in all honesty could you still be able to trust him again! I think not %26amp; rite fully so. You deserve far better than this, I'd pray about it %26amp; put it in God's Hands. I feel he's already given you a ';sign';of what to do about this situation. IF he can't trust himself, then how can you fully trust him again. I believe things happen for reasons regardless if we know what they are or don't. I walked in your shoes before in my past. I KNOW how it feels to be cheated on time %26amp; time again. I just kept hanging in hoping things would change but they didn't, For 12 long yrs. I waited for a change %26amp; did NOT get it. I finally got to the point where I could not hang in any longer, I made the decision to let go. When I did, I felt like a ton of bricks rolled off my shoulders, I was finally FREE of ALL of it. FREE to go forward %26amp; start a new begging for myself %26amp; my life. You no doubt have just not met the rite person for you, but there IS a rite person out there for you. Someone who WILL love you as you deserve to be loved, someone who WILL be true to you. THIS IS what you deserve. Do NOt feel guilty for being true to yourself, for sticking up for yourself. I would give him the choice of either you or her. IF he chooses her OR says he cannot commit to you, then I would consider leaving him %26amp; having a chance of happiness for YOU...I DO wish you the best...:)
you are not the only one. Once a woman enticed my husband. The way I see it Men Have two brains and do not always use there best judgment when thinking with one of them. Temptation is a hard thing to beat. My husband came home crying, and asked for forgiveness even though the little episode ended abruptly. He could not continue through, because he could not get his mind off of me. I hate to say this but men are vulnerable. They will never understand a woman, even if they try to. Men can not handle temptation very well. Most men do not recognize when a woman is flirting with them or just being nice. It sounds to me though that this woman was a woman of his past, possibly one that he would of liked to have a future with before you came along. I think this woman knew this and took advantage of the situation even though she knew he was married. I would be angry with the other women for destroying what you two had. I am sure she knew he was married but did not care or consider anyone else's feelings but her own. She sounds like a very self centered woman, and very selfish. Your husband still communicates with her so obviously he is not ready to break all ties with her. If he truly loves you; then you should be the most important thing in his life. He should dump this woman like a hot potato, for coming in between his marriage. You should not expect him to to ask for forgiveness. Some men are truly sorry but do not know how to say it. He says he does not want to recommit because he does not trust himself. This tells me he obviously still loves and cares for this women. You left him and he was shocked because he did think you would ever leave. You are doing the right thing if he is not willing to drop his other friend; unless you are willing to deal with his infidelity as a part of your life. I know you love him dearly and it is very hard right now, but you need to stick to your guns know matter how hard it hurts. He needs to break all ties with this other woman first; until he can do this, you will never be happily married and be able to work through this. I hope for your; that you will be able to get through this trying time and be able to build your marriage back. Just remember it takes two to work things out, and you can't always have your cake and eat it to. God bless and I will keep you in my prayers.
this is what happened to me, i am a Christian, i found out earlier this year he had an affair last year, he is in the mideast then before he came home for Thanksgiving he saw her again.
he works security in the mideast, he said he never will again then i saw her email again and he left a c.d. here w/pics of her on it.
i am trying to forgive but everybody thinks i'm crazy.
he said i could never never forgive him its over, but he kept trying to kiss and hug me,
the last thing i want is him touching me, but he wont really communicate with me verbally.
now he's back working there, he says he's not in touch w/her but he's a compulsive liar.
i am committed to my church, and i pray more lately. that's what i do.
i KNOW God will work things out for my good. just keep the faith, God is on your side. i was up crying last night but i know Jesus is with me, i feel sorry for their souls.
I went through something similar 3 or 4 years ago with my husband. The only difference is that his ';affair'; was more of an emotional thing and he left me (not for her but DID spent time with her while he was gone). I didn't know for 6 months that they were keeping in contact through myspace. It crushed me...twice over. In the end it came down to understanding WHY everything happened. We have a wonderful relationship now but he wanted forgivness for leaving me right from the start. A year after coming home he was over the road (driving semi's) and had hours to think. He called me one day at 2 in the morning crying. He told me how sorry he was for breaking my heart and told me he would never leave me again. Obviously in our relationship the fact that he left me was the big issue. His ';affair'; was not a true affair but more or less a double blow after the fact. Either way...for a relationship to move on he must be truly sorry and truly willing to re-commit himself to the relationship. Obviously your husband is not ready for this. That doesn't mean he never will be but understand that he may not. Go about your life in the way that is best for you and see where it takes you from there.
Why does everyone despise Katie Price so much?
Just to let you know, I am not a fan of hers or anything but I am just giving a different point of view here.
I don't really understand why everyone despises her so much. She hasn't killed anyone?
Have people forgotten how she got famous in the first place? yes, as a glamour model.
A month or so after the relationship broke down she went to Ibiza for a photo shoot (her job) and also a holiday with her friends. Which she is entitled to do. Loads of people go on a holiday once they have come out of a long term relationship. She left the kids with their father (who has responsibilities too) and she was only away for less than a week.
Pete also jetted off to India around the same time, but that's ok because he is a man right?
Just because Pete knows how to play the press better than Katie, he knows how to come across as a saint, where she stays true to herself.
She hasn't changed as a person, she has always been an outgoing extroverted person who likes attention...why has everyone forgotten this?
What is the big deal?
Recently there have been more people slagging Katie Price off than the Baby P murderers. Get this into perspective people!
Neither of them are perfect parents but she is the one who is painted as the bad person. Pete jets off and leaves the kids with their nanny just as much as she does.
I think its all very sexist. It reminds me of the David Beckham /Rebbecca Loos scandal - Everyone blamed Loos or Victoria for his infidelity but not one person blamed David?
What are your opinions ?Why does everyone despise Katie Price so much?
everyone despises her because she is a cheap and nasty piece of work and she treated peter like crap. She's had two different guys already since her and peter split, what kind of example is she showing to her younger fans? She should've kept her big mouth shut about the miscarriage, it was nothing to do with the public at all, but she obviously thought if she talked about it on the interview she did it pierce morgan, she's make money out of it. Peter had been invited to India to host an awards ceremony and to promote his new album. He did'nt go out getting drunk every night or flaunting himself infront of other women. Kate has had her cake and eaten it as far as peter is concerned, I'm just waiting for it all to go **** up (scuse the pun) for her and she loses the lot.Why does everyone despise Katie Price so much?
she's had more c..ock ends than weekends and is a nasty piece of work!!!
Who is Katie Price?
Gosh - a lot of strong opinions on here! I don't despise her because I don't actually know her. I am not interested in the way either of them live their lives TBH. The kids seem to be happy and well looked after so I guess that's all that matters. Anyway, every time a celebrity marriage breaks up the woman always gets the blame. She is too thin, too ambitious, too sexy etc...... I guess Katie was just too Jordan for Peter!
Because she is a two faced lying cow is the main reason..
She preaches happy family and all that crap when it suits her BUT what she forgets to tell you is the porn (hard) film she made with one of her lovers that 'mysteriously' appeared on the web....
She is a two faced hypocrite of the highest order - she kinda shoots herself in the foot every time she opens her enormous gob
What a load of tosh. the reason no-one like her is because she doesn't care about anybody at all! Not even her own children, so she goes weeks without seeing them and she isn't even decent to the FATHER of her children, not letting him see them. She's more interested in getting wasted and out of her head. She's such a bad mother right now, she needs to pull herself together before she loses custody.
I don't really understand why everyone despises her so much. She hasn't killed anyone?
Have people forgotten how she got famous in the first place? yes, as a glamour model.
A month or so after the relationship broke down she went to Ibiza for a photo shoot (her job) and also a holiday with her friends. Which she is entitled to do. Loads of people go on a holiday once they have come out of a long term relationship. She left the kids with their father (who has responsibilities too) and she was only away for less than a week.
Pete also jetted off to India around the same time, but that's ok because he is a man right?
Just because Pete knows how to play the press better than Katie, he knows how to come across as a saint, where she stays true to herself.
She hasn't changed as a person, she has always been an outgoing extroverted person who likes attention...why has everyone forgotten this?
What is the big deal?
Recently there have been more people slagging Katie Price off than the Baby P murderers. Get this into perspective people!
Neither of them are perfect parents but she is the one who is painted as the bad person. Pete jets off and leaves the kids with their nanny just as much as she does.
I think its all very sexist. It reminds me of the David Beckham /Rebbecca Loos scandal - Everyone blamed Loos or Victoria for his infidelity but not one person blamed David?
What are your opinions ?Why does everyone despise Katie Price so much?
everyone despises her because she is a cheap and nasty piece of work and she treated peter like crap. She's had two different guys already since her and peter split, what kind of example is she showing to her younger fans? She should've kept her big mouth shut about the miscarriage, it was nothing to do with the public at all, but she obviously thought if she talked about it on the interview she did it pierce morgan, she's make money out of it. Peter had been invited to India to host an awards ceremony and to promote his new album. He did'nt go out getting drunk every night or flaunting himself infront of other women. Kate has had her cake and eaten it as far as peter is concerned, I'm just waiting for it all to go **** up (scuse the pun) for her and she loses the lot.Why does everyone despise Katie Price so much?
she's had more c..ock ends than weekends and is a nasty piece of work!!!
Who is Katie Price?
Gosh - a lot of strong opinions on here! I don't despise her because I don't actually know her. I am not interested in the way either of them live their lives TBH. The kids seem to be happy and well looked after so I guess that's all that matters. Anyway, every time a celebrity marriage breaks up the woman always gets the blame. She is too thin, too ambitious, too sexy etc...... I guess Katie was just too Jordan for Peter!
Because she is a two faced lying cow is the main reason..
She preaches happy family and all that crap when it suits her BUT what she forgets to tell you is the porn (hard) film she made with one of her lovers that 'mysteriously' appeared on the web....
She is a two faced hypocrite of the highest order - she kinda shoots herself in the foot every time she opens her enormous gob
What a load of tosh. the reason no-one like her is because she doesn't care about anybody at all! Not even her own children, so she goes weeks without seeing them and she isn't even decent to the FATHER of her children, not letting him see them. She's more interested in getting wasted and out of her head. She's such a bad mother right now, she needs to pull herself together before she loses custody.
Living with Borderline Personality Disorder?
I recently went to the local crisis center after trying to commit suicide on a drinking binge which i recently got started on after having a very bad break up with my boyfriend which centered around infidelity on his part. Well, things had been getting really bad to the point I could not cope. Most people don't understand what it's like with the hell living with borderline personality disorder. I have been doing extensive therapy this week having to see someone everyday to make sure that I don't self harm and or try to commit suicide.
What I'm wondering is aside from seeking help which i did how does someone actually deal with the abandonment issues? I cut and its causing damage to my tendons now. I tried binge drinking and well that turned into trying to kill myself and now I just got to the point where I know if it does not change soon I wont be here alot longer. I'm not saying this for sympathy I know 10% of people with BPD do commit suicide and I really do not want it to go to that extreme how do others living with this manage to cope are there some kind of forums or something to talk to others with this issues or other people who have found ways to cope with them other than cutting, random sex partners, drinking and drugs? None of this helps it just really makes it alot worse :(
help...Living with Borderline Personality Disorder?
Hi, well as said in my last answer you really need to have your medication reviewed and i believe you should try the antdepressant cymbalta as it is very good - i was hospitalised for depression and they put almost everyone on this and its the only one that helped me - but regardless even if cymbalta does not work you need to fnd one that does.
It sounds like you may need to go and stay in hospital (psych ward) for a few weeks to really get some intensive help. I had to do it and dont regret it. There were a lot of 'respectable' people in there with good jobs who were pretty or whatever so dont feel ashamed.
My mum was sexually abused and had bpd plus 3 kids and no help from my dad. She managed to stop drinking and to be honest my mum is not all there so if she can do it you can too She had to go to hospital to stop too. I think you should admit yourself to a psych ward as soon as you can and just focus on getting better.
Btw alot of doctors do not like to diagnose people wth having bpd as they are often wrong and it crosses over with other disorders. I have been told i 'might have it' which was no help to me because they couldnt even confirm it. I would be careful of labellng yourself BDD because you may have a mix of other disorders its really hard to say. I think it also makes people feel helpless about stuff being labelled as that - sexual abuse survivers can go on to have healthy relationships and i think these labels make them think they cant. Btw my mum has been wth a new guy 3 years and he is not at all abusve and treats her really well - goes to show you wll not be in destructive relationships necessarily.Living with Borderline Personality Disorder?
you need professional help to learn coping skills and well as having a medication review.
my heart really goes out to you because i experienced a mental disorder during my pregnancy and it's so hard to see the light when you're there.
i wish I could cuddle you and light that torch for you. You need a mum, a dad, a sister or brother. You need someone to help you till you find your way.
Your mind is so powerful it has created this. Just imagine if you found a place where you could teach your mind to create something amazing. May I suggest you tell everyone you need help. If no one listens, go to a church, a synagogue, a buddhist temple *my preference';, a mosque and ask for help. Stay clear of unknown religions because you're really vulnerable now.
You can learn to tell this mind of yours how you want to live. In the meantime, it's OK to use meds. Dont fight them. At least try something like St Johns Wort.
This earth is holding you up my friend. You are not alone. You are obviously smart but are just making bad choices. Follow the norm...society. Pretend for 24 hours that you are a princess and part of the norm society and then if that works, do it for 48 hours.
You need to have some fun and relaxation too.
Firstly i think getting out of that last relationship was the best thing you could have done ---- although you feel betrayed i think deep down you know you deserve better. I have never had BPD but have been depression free for about 3 yrs now but before that was living a pure nightmare. I was in an abusive relationship with my highschool sweetheart soulmate (that virgo guy) and he ended up being really abusive for the last 2 yrs of the relationship... I had sever depression and anxiety that was CHRONIC all day everyday... tried 6 diff meds finally found one that did not cause brain zaps only to discover that i had toxic reaction to it.... i got off -- had withdrawal and all this terrible bas SH** happened... I had to go to 4 months of intense therapy and my health had to hit rock bottom -- develped chronic fatugue and fibromyalgia for 5 yrs from the trauma that it caused me... was unemployed for 2 yrs. ... anyway to cut the long depressing story short .... just want to say your not alone.... i guess my point is in my situation i had to hit rock bottom before i started making my come back 5 yrs in the making.... Im not sure if your religious or not .. but i used to pray hard but my first bible in the midst of all that and felt my angels always guiding me and taking care of me... I am soo strong now because of what i went through... what doesn't kill you makes you stronger... Also have you ever thought maybe your going through this for a reason and that maybe your supposed to go through this crap to come out the other end. Definately seek help, people are out there just like you and you are not alone.....blue hair loan
What I'm wondering is aside from seeking help which i did how does someone actually deal with the abandonment issues? I cut and its causing damage to my tendons now. I tried binge drinking and well that turned into trying to kill myself and now I just got to the point where I know if it does not change soon I wont be here alot longer. I'm not saying this for sympathy I know 10% of people with BPD do commit suicide and I really do not want it to go to that extreme how do others living with this manage to cope are there some kind of forums or something to talk to others with this issues or other people who have found ways to cope with them other than cutting, random sex partners, drinking and drugs? None of this helps it just really makes it alot worse :(
help...Living with Borderline Personality Disorder?
Hi, well as said in my last answer you really need to have your medication reviewed and i believe you should try the antdepressant cymbalta as it is very good - i was hospitalised for depression and they put almost everyone on this and its the only one that helped me - but regardless even if cymbalta does not work you need to fnd one that does.
It sounds like you may need to go and stay in hospital (psych ward) for a few weeks to really get some intensive help. I had to do it and dont regret it. There were a lot of 'respectable' people in there with good jobs who were pretty or whatever so dont feel ashamed.
My mum was sexually abused and had bpd plus 3 kids and no help from my dad. She managed to stop drinking and to be honest my mum is not all there so if she can do it you can too She had to go to hospital to stop too. I think you should admit yourself to a psych ward as soon as you can and just focus on getting better.
Btw alot of doctors do not like to diagnose people wth having bpd as they are often wrong and it crosses over with other disorders. I have been told i 'might have it' which was no help to me because they couldnt even confirm it. I would be careful of labellng yourself BDD because you may have a mix of other disorders its really hard to say. I think it also makes people feel helpless about stuff being labelled as that - sexual abuse survivers can go on to have healthy relationships and i think these labels make them think they cant. Btw my mum has been wth a new guy 3 years and he is not at all abusve and treats her really well - goes to show you wll not be in destructive relationships necessarily.Living with Borderline Personality Disorder?
you need professional help to learn coping skills and well as having a medication review.
my heart really goes out to you because i experienced a mental disorder during my pregnancy and it's so hard to see the light when you're there.
i wish I could cuddle you and light that torch for you. You need a mum, a dad, a sister or brother. You need someone to help you till you find your way.
Your mind is so powerful it has created this. Just imagine if you found a place where you could teach your mind to create something amazing. May I suggest you tell everyone you need help. If no one listens, go to a church, a synagogue, a buddhist temple *my preference';, a mosque and ask for help. Stay clear of unknown religions because you're really vulnerable now.
You can learn to tell this mind of yours how you want to live. In the meantime, it's OK to use meds. Dont fight them. At least try something like St Johns Wort.
This earth is holding you up my friend. You are not alone. You are obviously smart but are just making bad choices. Follow the norm...society. Pretend for 24 hours that you are a princess and part of the norm society and then if that works, do it for 48 hours.
You need to have some fun and relaxation too.
Firstly i think getting out of that last relationship was the best thing you could have done ---- although you feel betrayed i think deep down you know you deserve better. I have never had BPD but have been depression free for about 3 yrs now but before that was living a pure nightmare. I was in an abusive relationship with my highschool sweetheart soulmate (that virgo guy) and he ended up being really abusive for the last 2 yrs of the relationship... I had sever depression and anxiety that was CHRONIC all day everyday... tried 6 diff meds finally found one that did not cause brain zaps only to discover that i had toxic reaction to it.... i got off -- had withdrawal and all this terrible bas SH** happened... I had to go to 4 months of intense therapy and my health had to hit rock bottom -- develped chronic fatugue and fibromyalgia for 5 yrs from the trauma that it caused me... was unemployed for 2 yrs. ... anyway to cut the long depressing story short .... just want to say your not alone.... i guess my point is in my situation i had to hit rock bottom before i started making my come back 5 yrs in the making.... Im not sure if your religious or not .. but i used to pray hard but my first bible in the midst of all that and felt my angels always guiding me and taking care of me... I am soo strong now because of what i went through... what doesn't kill you makes you stronger... Also have you ever thought maybe your going through this for a reason and that maybe your supposed to go through this crap to come out the other end. Definately seek help, people are out there just like you and you are not alone.....
What steps do I take to leave my husband?
My husband is no longer the man I met 10 years ago, we were very young at the time and in college. 10 years later he is still that childish guy instead of growing up like the rest of the world. We have had many issues with drugs and infidelity in the last year. I'm scared to leave him for his issues, to find another man that will have issues to deal with. Any ideas how to be strong and make the move?What steps do I take to leave my husband?
if you don't have a backbone yet, you may never. you will just go back and forth. enjoy this cyclical abuse for the rest of your life.What steps do I take to leave my husband?
one big one out the door !
If your not happy let him know and leave, you have been there for him 10 years thats a long time, and if dont get know he never will, do what makes you happy life is too short, hes a grown a*s man he needs to face reality and get it together. I know it hurts but you have to start your healing process to to lead a fulfillful life. Best of Luck to you and remember STAY SRONG!!
If you are scared to leave him for all those temporary issues, then you will have to face these issues permanently. Think of your next 50 years or more, you will have the courage to do what you want.
The problem is all inside your head
She said to me
The answer is easy if you
Take it logically
I鈥檇 like to help you in your struggle
To be free
There must be fifty ways
To leave your lover
She said it鈥檚 really not my habit
To intrude
Furthermore, I hope my meaning
Won鈥檛 be lost or misconstrued
But I鈥檒l repeat myself
At the risk of being crude
There must be fifty ways
To leave your lover
Fifty ways to leave your lover
CHORUS:
You just slip out the back, Jack
Make a new plan, Stan
You don鈥檛 need to be coy, Roy
Just get yourself free
Hop on the bus, Gus
You don鈥檛 need to discuss much
Just drop off the key, Lee
And get yourself free
She said it grieves me so
To see you in such pain
I wish there was something I could do
To make you smile again
I said I appreciate that
And would you please explain
About the fifty ways
She said why don鈥檛 we both
Just sleep on it tonight
And I believe in the morning
You鈥檒l begin to see the light
And then she kissed me
And I realized she probably was right
There must be fifty ways
To leave your lover
Fifty ways to leave your lover
You have to make decision for yourself first and then it will come to your mind what and how to do.
I was afraid and scare before I made my decision. Than I felt that it's not going to be worst than I have it right now, it must be only better! So I made my mind about divorce and went to see an attorney. Step by step process began.
I counted all my credits and debits, ';+'; and ';-'; and figured it out that I AM going to survive very well.
AND...I DID.
Good Luck.
I don't answer too many of these but you appear to need some solid help, here.....
Assuming that you have had chats with him regarding your concerns, and that counseling led to no improvement, and you do indeed wish to bail... the following ought to help. (If not, try some counseling first -- it may help, but with betrayal and addictions, don't count on much, hon)
Firstly, if the guy has cheated, that is the ultimate deal-buster in a marriage..... relationships/marriages are respect, admiration passion and trust. The trust is gone -- he has shared his body and soul with another woman/women, betraying your trust and your relationship, and for sure your admiration and respect for the guy is pretty much in the toilet. So, at this point, you really don't even have a marriage, you have a roommate of the opposite sex. If he has been a druggie, as you probably know, he is already in a relationship -- it just isn't with you.... addicts of any sort just aren't available -- they are already taken... be the addiction drugs, porn, gambling, alcohol, sex, other women, or whatever, they certainly are more dedicated to any of those than they ever can be to your relationship. He would need a major attitude adjustment of many years duration to change 10 years of this sort of behavior... And, hon, life is toooooo short to waste....
How to get out? Internalize some of this stuff, read it again, go back to your counselor and get some more of your head screwed on straight. Don't leave a home you have invested in together, because you financially will loose, so use a mediating attorney who will represent you both. (Find one in the Yellow pages under Attorney - Divorce - Mediating.) If you get into an adversarial position of each of you with an attorney, you both loose -- they'll each get about $6000, drag it on forever, and there goes your buckos.
Leaving an awful situation for the unknown is always scary,--- at least you know what you have. but hon, how could it be any worse? And there are tons of guys out there who just want a nice lady for a wife, and someone who has their act together. You don't have all of it together yet, but you will. In a year's time, you'll be fine. If you stay, in two years, you still be in this same mess.
Honey, just keep say to yourself that it the right thing to do and you are a strong women, that deserves the best! Don't settle for crumbs. Just begin making little steps intill your out the door. those issues of drugs and infidelity are his problems, not yours! Get away from him, he's dragging you down with him.
Been there
walk away and pray it works
if you don't have a backbone yet, you may never. you will just go back and forth. enjoy this cyclical abuse for the rest of your life.What steps do I take to leave my husband?
one big one out the door !
If your not happy let him know and leave, you have been there for him 10 years thats a long time, and if dont get know he never will, do what makes you happy life is too short, hes a grown a*s man he needs to face reality and get it together. I know it hurts but you have to start your healing process to to lead a fulfillful life. Best of Luck to you and remember STAY SRONG!!
If you are scared to leave him for all those temporary issues, then you will have to face these issues permanently. Think of your next 50 years or more, you will have the courage to do what you want.
The problem is all inside your head
She said to me
The answer is easy if you
Take it logically
I鈥檇 like to help you in your struggle
To be free
There must be fifty ways
To leave your lover
She said it鈥檚 really not my habit
To intrude
Furthermore, I hope my meaning
Won鈥檛 be lost or misconstrued
But I鈥檒l repeat myself
At the risk of being crude
There must be fifty ways
To leave your lover
Fifty ways to leave your lover
CHORUS:
You just slip out the back, Jack
Make a new plan, Stan
You don鈥檛 need to be coy, Roy
Just get yourself free
Hop on the bus, Gus
You don鈥檛 need to discuss much
Just drop off the key, Lee
And get yourself free
She said it grieves me so
To see you in such pain
I wish there was something I could do
To make you smile again
I said I appreciate that
And would you please explain
About the fifty ways
She said why don鈥檛 we both
Just sleep on it tonight
And I believe in the morning
You鈥檒l begin to see the light
And then she kissed me
And I realized she probably was right
There must be fifty ways
To leave your lover
Fifty ways to leave your lover
You have to make decision for yourself first and then it will come to your mind what and how to do.
I was afraid and scare before I made my decision. Than I felt that it's not going to be worst than I have it right now, it must be only better! So I made my mind about divorce and went to see an attorney. Step by step process began.
I counted all my credits and debits, ';+'; and ';-'; and figured it out that I AM going to survive very well.
AND...I DID.
Good Luck.
I don't answer too many of these but you appear to need some solid help, here.....
Assuming that you have had chats with him regarding your concerns, and that counseling led to no improvement, and you do indeed wish to bail... the following ought to help. (If not, try some counseling first -- it may help, but with betrayal and addictions, don't count on much, hon)
Firstly, if the guy has cheated, that is the ultimate deal-buster in a marriage..... relationships/marriages are respect, admiration passion and trust. The trust is gone -- he has shared his body and soul with another woman/women, betraying your trust and your relationship, and for sure your admiration and respect for the guy is pretty much in the toilet. So, at this point, you really don't even have a marriage, you have a roommate of the opposite sex. If he has been a druggie, as you probably know, he is already in a relationship -- it just isn't with you.... addicts of any sort just aren't available -- they are already taken... be the addiction drugs, porn, gambling, alcohol, sex, other women, or whatever, they certainly are more dedicated to any of those than they ever can be to your relationship. He would need a major attitude adjustment of many years duration to change 10 years of this sort of behavior... And, hon, life is toooooo short to waste....
How to get out? Internalize some of this stuff, read it again, go back to your counselor and get some more of your head screwed on straight. Don't leave a home you have invested in together, because you financially will loose, so use a mediating attorney who will represent you both. (Find one in the Yellow pages under Attorney - Divorce - Mediating.) If you get into an adversarial position of each of you with an attorney, you both loose -- they'll each get about $6000, drag it on forever, and there goes your buckos.
Leaving an awful situation for the unknown is always scary,--- at least you know what you have. but hon, how could it be any worse? And there are tons of guys out there who just want a nice lady for a wife, and someone who has their act together. You don't have all of it together yet, but you will. In a year's time, you'll be fine. If you stay, in two years, you still be in this same mess.
Honey, just keep say to yourself that it the right thing to do and you are a strong women, that deserves the best! Don't settle for crumbs. Just begin making little steps intill your out the door. those issues of drugs and infidelity are his problems, not yours! Get away from him, he's dragging you down with him.
Been there
walk away and pray it works
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